Where do people make new online friends these days? I'm in a few closed discord servers with the same people I've known for years and I feel like meeting new people would be good for me. Preferably from my own country so I can actually meet up with them and do friend-things if it clicks. I could join public servers but I don't like how a lot of them make you jump through hoops before you're even allowed to lurk to get a feel for the place. Not to mention all the literal children being openly underage over there. I tried vr-chat but I've noticed that I don't really feel like putting on a big bulky headset whenever I want to talk to people and I don't know if it's okay to just walk up to a group and silently stare at them and listen for a while to see if I want to join the conversation or not.I looked on /soc/ but the few times I've seen threads for my country most people posting seemed like they were either low-quality trolls or boring angry chuds.Should I just go outside or something?
>>33889617Nobody joins a public discord server with the intent to find irl friends to meet up. Get a real hobby outside your house and use that to find people and stop lurking on shitty discord servers and vr chat rooms. Only people you'll find there are the exact opposite of what you're looking for.
>>33889617Have you considered meeting real live people in real life?
>>33889617>Where do I go?Outside! I won't read app-addled threads.
>>33889723All of my irl friends from the last 10 years have been either from 4chan or from shitty discord servers but they're all kinda dead now. And when the servers die you end up keeping contact with the one or two people you had a connection with and the rest just kinda disappear.I could try joining a few random local servers and hang out at the ones that aren't complete shit. Local servers do meetups sometimes.>Get a real hobby outside your house and use that to find peopleMost of my current hobbies don't really have any social element so I don't know where to start.>Only people you'll find there are the exact opposite of what you're looking for.I guess what I'm looking for is just comfy people that fit my vibe that I can do stuff with. If the vibe is right, things happen pretty naturally. Maybe I need to think about where someone like me would hang out and get involved in that somehow.>>33889761>>33890057I mean I get along with my coworkers well enough but I don't see myself meeting up with them after work.
>>33890114Anon, if you want to go make good friends outside, I'll ask you five questions:1) Are you comfortable with your financial situation?2) Are there any places for food in your area?3) Are you fine with talking to old people or pensioners?4) Do you go outside for food often?5) Would spending money on tea or food outside home be better in a financial context?If they're all good, go to your nearest cafe daily, or go there biweekly, start up a conversation with the salesman, or the receptionist, or whomever.These places are usually small businesses and not owned by a corporation, they're pretty chill, and on the occasion of your visits becoming more regular, and your interactions with the people over there becoming more amicable, you pretty much get a friend!It'll be like, pretty natural, and they're quite soulful too, the old people are especially very eager to speak to someone. The middle aged men are probably like, tired. Don't fall for the bar meme for friendships unless you're looking specifically for women or short term goals.
