I don't really feel like an adult even though I am 32. I feel like I am a teenager that isn't immature but is basically barely functional as far as being an adult is concerned. I basically have been living like I am still in high school. I have a job but my life is basically playing video games and going to the gym. The real issue comes up when I try to date. I think women around my age really want a man who knows how to do a lot of things and I am not that guy. I feel completely inferior to most women. I also have trouble dating because in my head I am thinking, "Why would she ever want to date someone who is borderline autistic or maybe even retarded?" What can I do to feel more like an adult?When I was younger, I had so many friends that said shit like "I CAN'T WAIT TO GROW UP!" but I never said that. I knew that one day, I'd be an adult and be nearly more miserable than when I was a kid. Maybe thats because I was the only child in my family. Anyway, what even is "growing up"? Would I have been able to function this long if I weren't grown up?
>>33890158you can decide if this is good advice or not but why not get a pet? that's one way to learn to be responsible and to be responsible over something other than yourself. but if you dislike or don't care for pets then obviously maybe don't do it.and these days most people in their 20's and even 30's still don't feel like adults. i think that feeling only really comes from two things, having something/someone to take care of, or having a lot of life experience and thus truly knowing yourself. in this age where everyone seems asocial and socially anxious at least the second part is hard to fulfill.
>>33890187I could never get a pet. I am freaked out by having other animate things living with me that I can't communicate directly with. I do have a few plants though that I take care of well. I think you are right though, maybe its just how our society is right now. I just feel weird because I truly feel that women want a man who takes charge of all these things etc. But I can't take charge of anything because I feel that my neuro divergence makes me ill suited to lead anyone. I don't come to the same conclusions as what would be common. Thats why I hate leading because I know that the people I am leading won't like how I'd do it.
>>33890199i get that too, although i am younger. in university i eventually learned not to ever speak up during group discussions because it did feel like my ideas are always "wrong" and instantly shot down or not understood.if you're neurodivergent then my conclusion is you'll likely end up alone or with another neurodivergent person, that's how it usually goes i think. might take a long time though because many have mastered the skill of coming across as normal/inoffensive/boring rather than "weird" for the first few hours of meeting someone.and don't feel inferior OP. most people seem like they either don't care about anything or anyone, or they come across as highly aggressive. but that doesn't mean you're bad, it just means you should rather try to spend your time with others who are like you.
>>33890158> women around my age really want a man who knows how to do a lot of thingsSo go do lots of things.
SBD?>Grown-Ass-Manthe man is made not grown what makes you a man?
>>33890158If you can maintain a calm stable demeanor some women prefer that even if you are secretly manchildish. You are already doing everything else men your age do.
>>33890158Men haven't grapsed that early 30' men are peak. Ugly or not, a woman's first impression would always be "I want him".
>>33890158Go be a catholic. Ask God for a wife. Repent. Jesus is Real. Look at St. PIOs wound.
>>33890158>I don't really feel like an adult even though I am 32pedo no you can't date children because you feel like one
