Dating a single mom can be rewarding, but it comes with challenges that are worth understanding. First, her child will always be a priority, so your time and attention may be split, and you’ll need patience and understanding. You might have to navigate parenting decisions, schedules, and the occasional ex-partner drama.

Emotionally, dating someone with a child can be intense — you’re not just dating one person, you’re entering a pre-existing family dynamic. Trust and communication are essential, and you’ll need to be honest about your own boundaries and expectations.

On the positive side, many single moms are mature, responsible, and clear about what they want in a relationship. If you’re supportive and patient, it can lead to a deep, meaningful connection. The key is knowing yourself, being ready for the added responsibilities, and being willing to accept that the child will always come first.

If you want, I can break down some practical **dos and don’ts** for dating a single mom so you know what to expect.

>>33890549
She's cute, and the kid looks enough like me, which is important, but I'm pretty sure my Dad would absolutely furious.
And frankly, personally I'm a little bit hurt that girls never liked me anyways. It's not fair. I wanted so badly to be a good husband.

it depends on the individual

>>33890580
You'll get cucked eventually. She'll love her child more
Her priorities will always be her kid

>>33890618
Well I wouldn't accept being cucked, although I would have to contend with the fact that I'd be technically going into the marriage pre-cucked. Which is... it's own issue, but in terms of the child, the child should take precedence over me. That's how parenting works.

>>33890549
Don't do it bro. I did this and fell in love with the kid like she was my own daughter. Then the bitch had an aging crisis when her period started getting irregular and destroyed our relationship with her insane emotions and insatiable desire for male validation. I lost my daughter and I have no legal recourse.

>>33890633
Women are such awful people I can't believe they find a way of surprising me at this point.

>>33890549
A meaningful relationship with a woman and a meaningful chance at fatherhood.
If you're old like me and lost the chance at having children yourself, you can potentially fill that void.

>>33890553
Mother fuckers out here posting advice from chat gpt lmao

She's single for a reason. She's either hardwired to only fuck and breed with niggerish absentee deadbeats and will inevitably cuck your sweet ass for another one, or she's such a cunt she drives every decent man away. Commonly both.

>>33890549
Just don’t. These women deserve to bear the consequences of their actions.

>>33890549
>Consequences of dating a single mother
This is a no-go for everyone except those who cannot have children for whatever reason or those who already have children themselves, so it's an even match.
>Have to spend money on a child that isn't yours.
Like...why? No pussy is worth that. There isn't anything she can do that millions of single woman can't
>Parenting dynamics
A lot of women will be fine with you paying, but the second you exercise authority in a way they don't like, they'll pull the whole
>Well *I'm* his mother. You aren't his dad, so what I say goes
You'll also have to deal with another man in your life if the father is rightfully in the children's life. Then that parental dynamic thing is multiplied because you've got to be subservient to another man's opinions as well *on top* of the woman heading over you, while still spending your money on the children.
>The child will always have priority over you
You'll never be #1 in the mother's eyes. No matter what.
>Adoption
Imagine you're with a woman and you end up adopting the child. It ends...now you've got to pay child support on children that aren't even yours lmao. No.

Again, unless you already have children from a previous relationship or can't have your own children for some reason, single mothers are for fucking only. And personally, I can't even do *that* because I find it disrespectful.

>>33890632
>the child should take precedence over me. That's how parenting works.
False. Children should be second to the relationship between the parents. Why? Because children will generally be okay. If both of the parents are solid in their relationship with eachother, the kids, by nature, will also be okay. Whereas when parents focus on the children, it's usually to the detriment of their own relationship with their spouse. This is exactly how you end up with parents who stay together "for the sake of the children". They were prioritizing the children over everything from the start so they never tended to their own relationship like they should've. The kids got all that energy. Have you ever heard of a situation where the parents had a genuine, healthy and loving relationship with each-other but the children *weren't* okay? No, because it doesn't work like that. Children don't need to be micro managed.

>>33890827
Half of this board is made up of bots tbf

If you're below 30. No.
If you're above 30 then yeah it's worth considering.
All good women will prioritize the child's well being over any man. Most the stuff is already laid out but the key takeaway is your age plays a huge context in the trajectory of one's life.

Women that are nice to you are rarer than single women.

>>33890549
>white child

I was chatting with a single mom once and clocked the race of the father based on how old the kid was when he abandoned
>black men leave before birth
>hispanic men leave soon after birth
>white men leave after trying for a few years
>asian men [insufficient data]
it is genetically determined by their r-K affinity -- and obviously this is just the median behavior

if white dad died I would strongly consider it
if he's still alive her judgement is too risky

the consequences would be possibly rescuing two lives, but then I would want to impregnate her myself so there would be this whole half-sibling dynamic
I'd probably want to meet the grandparents to see what kind of genes the kid is coming from

in the case of the single mom I mentioned her father also had a profile on the dating site so it was pretty weird he could technically have contacted his daughter, and even though they both seemed fine letting a spic cum inside you is a no-go

>>33890549
eternal suffering

>>33890549
DON'T
JUST WALK AWAY

>>33893207
Asian men (in asia) tend not to leave the kid fully. They'll head off to work and not return for years. The kid doesn't get officially abandoned until later.

>>33890549
It's never worth it.
You could make an exception for widows I guess.

>>33890580
She looks like a Lesbian. So she will be angry and bitchy till you leave and then hook up with some vulgar butchy lardass of a "woman". Pass.

>>33890549
Nothing but downsides desu. If I ever hooked up with a single mom, it's gonna be on my terms. They are merely fwb material in my book. I don't consider women humans, let alone single moms. But hey, If she got huge booba, go for it

>>33890549
If you are asking in regards to a particular single mom, it is hard to say without knowing the reason the woman became a single mother.
If you are asking about the broad consequences of dating a single mom in general, I'd say nothing good will come out of it.
People who have had failed relationships have higher rates of future relationship instability.
It is worse when there is a complicating factor like children from previous relationship(s).
If single mothers want to pursue relationships, it is up to them to figure out how to make things work for everyone, including their children.
You had nothing to do with their previous relationships, so you shouldn't let their problems become yours.
One should only pursue a single mother for dating when one's pursuit of happiness MUST involve a single mother (perhaps out of lack of other options).
I don't know what else I can tell you.

>>33890580
>my Dad would absolutely furious.
There you go, you already have a factor that will negatively impact your dating life.
Does she have that much to offer that you are willing to solemnly accept and deal with your father's fury?

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>>33890549
the negative side is you quickly realize the options aren't that good
>#1 create a serious relationship: you keep seeing her, meet the kid and probably bond, creating issues later on when you separate
>#2 stall and try to keep it casual / fwb / etc: very soon she'll be resentful and you'll have to choose between #1 and
>#3 pump and dump her
still, good times to be had. nowadays I skip to #3

>>33890549
Happiness?

>>33890553
my eyes locked onto that em dash before i could even read the first word