i'm a 24 y/o (and most likely a quite stunted) femanon and i've liked a guy since i was 18, which is when i met him. i think he's now 32(?). how do i stop liking him? it's been several years and i thought crushes are supposed to go away eventually if you don't want to act on it. without writing too much of an essay you could say i'm a shy "good girl" and he's a "bad boy" or whatever you want to call it (he's a nice person of course but he's pretty stoic, basically an alcoholist, quite familiar with hard drugs it seems too, etc. so not exactly boyfriend material for me), and even after getting into my first relationship i haven't been able to let go of the attraction. i only ever see him in a group, so we've never interacted just one on one, and we never really became friends or even got close to each other. both of us always seem to avoid directly talking to each other besides giving small reactions to whatever the other person is saying to the group. although he does seem kind of attentive towards me.obviously i have no reason to believe this dynamic will change into anything "more" now that it's been several years, so how to stop the attraction ? i hoped it would simply go away with time.
Don’t see him anymore
>>33891829it might be possible but so far i haven't done this because it's a very awkward association. almost like a coworker basically, it's never really my choice to see him.
Why haven't you made a decision in 5 years?
>>33891822You probably have extremely high genetic compatibility with him. You have to find a newer better version of him and let him G00n his cock inside your guts while you watch. Multiple sessions per week
>>33893643how though, i've quite literally never even a single time met anyone similar.and i have also heard about this thing where an intense crush is not about the other person, but about you being obsessed with the feeling of being around them, the atmosphere or "vibe" or whatever you feel when around them, but i've also never met anyone who gives me that either. to describe him in short, if all people had a chillness/coolness scale from 0 to 100 i think he would be one of the few people where it would read 100 lol. he's not a model or anything but quite cool in everything he ever says or does and it does seem completely natural lol.
>>33893643>You probably have extremely high genetic compatibility with him.Basically this, when people talk about "falling in love at first sight" or just having an attraction that they cannot let go of, it's usually because of subconscious genetic markers signalling that you and the other person are extremely compatible. There's usually a pretty high chance that if you feel this way then the other person does too. In OP's case it looks like her crush also likes her but for whatever reason is awkwardly avoiding her.
>>33893711thanks for making me fantasize about him, but even if this were true i don't think anything will end up happening and it might just be a crush i'll carry forever even if i go completely no contact (so far i usually only see him maybe 4 times a year, only in a group context, so maybe cutting contact would help a bit at least i hope).
Please kys
>>33891822Im in a similar situation and mine's been going on for a couple of years tooI was thinking of just replacing him with another guy, powering through, fake it till you make it. What other option do we have, op?
>>33896375Male hands
