If youre lurking adv right now get a hobbyIt keeps you in contact with people where you aren't a hermit and lonely and the interactions are usually centered around relatability or learning and new experiences rather than the odd hunt that can lead into trying to prove yourself.When dudes don't have stuff they like to do they tend to get into scarcity mode and then the issues arise. As humans we are meant to be social albiet men are wired to be able to endure being alone but there is a difference between being a basement dweller and being on your journey of life and meeting people along the way.
i go to clubs and no one wants to sit next to me or talk to me about anything
>>33931951It's 2025 not 1995, people don't socialize with randos IRL to shoot the shit with anymore, that's what The Phone is for
>>33931944A lot of us are grinding and this is just a way to not feel so lonely
>>33931951You have to ask yourself: >is dealing with bird brain women worth it?often time men dont enter the market with a goal in mind. Setting a goal makes it easy to not waste time.i hope during this time you have picked up hobbies you enjoy that puts you around other people. Because if you plan on club hopping or apps to acomplish this goal Im just gonna say good luck
>>33931944What hobby? Boxing or card games?
>>33931970Not sure if you're still lurking but>Setting a goal makes it easy to not waste time.How do I get over the low self esteem that comes from feeling like I've "given up" because I'm choosing not to "waste my time" while there are dudes out there that are easily scoring these chicks, smashing them and discarding them?
>>33931965This is a factorHard to have time for hobbies if you're working (as the chinks call it) a 996 schedule
Let me tell ya, I have a good hobbies that I'm good at and I'm still antisocial. I hate all of the people I've come to know in my city and those spineless cocksuckers hate me too. They earned it, fuck em. No one to call or open up to, I just have my work and fighting. Helps keep me off of drugs. You're right that /adv/ is a emotional cesspool but so is your local bar. If you're reading this, go win and fuck someone's girlfriend. Be the change you want to see.
>>33931951That's because nightclubs are havens for people with no identity looking for warmth. Go to people and talk to them. They're simple, all they want is fun and inclusion. Just be the party and let them adjust, they're all moths to lamps anyway.
>>33931944Doing hobby things with people annoys me and feels bad. Can only be social for the sake of being social.
Having hobbies isn't a golden ticket towards meeting people.
>get a hobby
