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What’s the point of forgiveness: it just seems like faggot shit of letting people walk all over you. Why is this even a thing for anyone other than a cuck?
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I don't understand it either. I can sort of understand it as a way of not being hung up on something, but forgetting/not caring is much more effective...and having some semblance of remembering and not forgiving can serve as a life lesson on what to avoid in the future.
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>>33958156
I don't do it (I'll usually disregard) but I suppose it is a cope in order not to stress out over a wrong done to you. Also, the offender will keep abusing other people and will eventually fall prey to someone in a position to destroy them.
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>>33958156
I agree. When people reveal their true nature and cause you injury, there is no forgiveness you owe them - you owe them revenge. "Living better is the best revenge" is pussy shit. You either encounter and overcome bigger challenges such that the previous violation is nothing in comparison, or you decimate your opponent. My advice is to strike back with such overpowering force that it is undeniable, at least to your inner self.

It has been studied that male testosterone levels increase with wins and decrease with losses. So, if a bully got away with violating you, he won and you lost. Let that sink in... basically we are animals playing a zero-sum game, always in competition.
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>>33958156
I forbid people, even for bad things. But, retaliation and violence isn’t bad either. Well, killing is really bad. But otherwise, you’re a human. Thoughts of retaliation are normal.
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>>33958981
*forgive
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>>33958156
I forgive for my mental.
There's just no point in hanging onto grudges. Would you climb a hill with more heavy bs than you need? No just remove the bad so you can climb it faster. Because you dont know what lies ahead on that mountain.
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>>33958156
the more you think about something bad someone did to you the more you actively spend time on it.
the more it drags on you.
giving forgiveness is you taking back power and deciding it wont be something you devote attention to thinking about anymore.



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