anons should i give up?im at uni right now and I wanted to lots of friends and go out lots and get out of my shell but its shit. I do plenty of stuff, sports, societies, volunteering and its all just assin a few hours time ill be at waterpolo, ill ride in a car there and talk to nobody since thyre all talking loudly in french since half of the waterpolo club is female french law exchange students (my flat is also half female french law exchange students, I fucking hate the french). ill get there and practice waterpolo, im like giga shit, the shittest person there, the other newbs got better quicker than me but im getting better slowly, but its hard and exhausting. However thyre kinda rushing me since im the only new guy to join waterpolo this year and they need more on the mens team. The captain is ofc congratulating me for anything good i do (which actually works cuz im weak willed) but i still havent really talked to anybody. Then I walk home to campus. This kinda sums up my experience of going out, not making any friends, talking to like one or two people max and knowing them as an acquaintance, being one of the few (or only) guys to join this year. My uni is a campus uni an hours walk out of town so its hard to go to a proper pub or anything. The stuff I do is only at par or dubiously better than bedrotting honestly. Im going to the gym and Im trying harder to look better and it means jack shit.Im not focusing on my studies and have been ignoring the few online people I have who I have infinitely closer relationships with for this shit. I have quite low bandwith for everything since im a retard who has problems independently living. Every "good" time ive had hasnt really been that good retrospect. idk should i bedrotmaxx.
>>33958160>Im not focusing on my studies and have been ignoring the few online people I have who I have infinitely closer relationships with for this shit.>idk should I bedrotmaxx???If you have friends online keep in fucking contact with them compared to keeping up with shit you hate. And damn study, you're not the partyanimal so that part of uni shouldn't be your focus. It seems you really are going out of your way to be somebody who you aren't, and while I do agree it's good to try stuff like that, keeping it up when it's not working is just baffling
>>33958160>Im not focusing on my studies and have been ignoring the few online people I have who I have infinitely closer relationships with for this shit.that's good atleast, keep in contact with those people>>33958160>talk to nobody since thyre all talking loudly in french since half of the waterpolo club is female french law exchange students (my flat is also half female french law exchange students, I fucking hate the french). ill get there and practice waterpolo, im like giga shit, the shittest person there, the other newbs got better quicker than me but im getting better slowly, but its hard and exhausting. However thyre kinda rushing me since im the only new guy to join waterpolo this year and they need more on the mens team. The captain is ofc congratulating me for anything good i do (which actually works cuz im weak willed) but i still havent really talked to anybody.anon, you've done more than 99% of people on this board by actually trying 5 or 6 things consistentlyyou got unlucky & the people around you in those activities are shit, or not ones you can talk/relate tonobody's forcing you to go to water polo or volunteering if you hate it & it's not going anywhere, but please keep trying things, because eventually one of them will workyou're very close now
>>33958400i dont hate this stuff, i like getting good at something that isnt on the computer, but i cant see it going anywhere socially.i have lots of trouble maintaining relationships too its better when im "forced" to be somewhere on a regular basis which is why i bother with these things and actually go but online is harder>>33958410its not really their shit but just im shit. theres people who i go like "waow thyre really cool" and i do talk to them but and it goes nowhere. i dont really have social anxiety and i can make conversation and i talk to people and none of it goes anywhere. no matter how "close" it will probably result in nothing.also i should probably study but i havent been a good student in a long time and vocational college really jaded me
