Its a cringeworthy term but accurately describes my situation. To keep it brief the girl i've been "talking to" has in the last few months has started to completely ice me out, only replying every few days if she feels like it, and with one word answers. The past year before then we had been more or less together, talking every day and doing couple shit. I've tried bringing up the vibes being off to her twice in a casual manner, but its always met with "im busy" or "not now" and "im going through a lot". As far as I know she doesn't even have a job, so all i'm left is to assume she is suddenly no longer interested. I did ask a close friend and they said ike shes not getting blown out by someone else, so I'm not sure what to doWhy do women do this? I'd have greatly preferred she just told me she didn't want things to go further even if it was blunt and curt like she is all the time now. I've considered just blocking her and moving on since im not going to beg for her attention, but i'm not sure whats even happening and if theres anything there anymore anyway.
>>33993573well stop nagging her for a while, and see if anything changes, if you're not official start making plans to move on
>>33993573Been there. It sucks, anon. Your instincts are correct, and she's just lost interest for whatever reason. When you find yourself in these situationships, it's a guarantee that one party will just dip without explanation.Based on what you've said about her not having a job, is it fair to assume she's not a very balanced individual? In that case, it was inevitable. Her brain just did a thing and now she doesn't care anymore. Mine was an unstable chick too.They're fun while they last, right? I bet you wish you could've kept it going.
>>33993626Why are unstable chicks “fun while they last”.
>>33993573>talking to a man means you're consenting to sex>why wont she tell me that she doesnt want to fuck anymore?
>>33993592I feel like I didn't nag her at all actually. When I "brought it up" I just asked what she was up to and whats going on as nicely as possible.>>33993626Yeah you got it. Shes pretty up and down, but she isnt a SSRI demon and doesn't do drugs or hoe out. I guess thats why i'm so butthurt, I thought she was a keeper
>>33993740I've never asked anything innappropriate or sexual from her, in fact its been her initiating anything like that. Go fuck yourself
>>33993731Tough to explain. They're uninhibited, they seem more 'real', the sex is better.>>33993743>Yeah you got it. Shes pretty up and down, but she isnt a SSRI demon and doesn't do drugs or hoe out. I guess thats why i'm so butthurt, I thought she was a keeperYep. All sounds familiar. You'll just get endless "I'm busy" or "I'm so overwhelmed" responses until you give up and walk away. She'll never tell you what actually happened - assuming she even knows herself, which is doubtful.It's tough anon, I'm sorry. The lack of closure is a real bitch.
>>33993787Should I at least say anything? Not necessarily being nasty or upset with her, even just wish her the best going forward and thanks for the good times?
>>33993788That I can't say, because I'm actually wrestling with that very decision in my own situation lmaoI can send a message in solidarity with you and we document our findings here, for posterity.
>>33993743>keeper>situationshiphuh?
>>33993745someones mad
>>33993799addendum - *it's me, i'm mad because OP won't fuck me
>>33993796Damn, well I think its worth mentioning how important they were and acknowledging whats happening, even if they won't. Maybe she would ghost me but I wouldn't do that to someone
>>33993743Whats with the hurry to make things "official"? Thats the womans job. Your joba s aman is to remain free and independent, possibly bang other women. It comes off as extremely Beta to be in a hurry to get tied down.
>>33993808I guess I'd add that the reason I'm wrestling with the decision is because some part of me wants her to recognize that she's losing me and change her mind. Which is delusion on my part and not healthy. So if that's anywhere in your brain, I would recommend maybe not picking at your scab by sending a hail mary text.Otherwise, in my opinion, you're clear for takeoff.
>>33993803he would fuck me if i offered it
>>33993830OP, would you fuck me please?
>>33993830>>33993833OP isn't gay, he doesn't want to fuck another dude, tranny.
>>33993787Why is the sex better?>the lack of closure is a real bitchMaybe that’s karma
>>33993906Karma for what? I didn't trick a mental patient into fucking me. How are you imagining this scenario my guy?
>>33993810Not only does it come off beta it comes off unsafe. Like, you’re just looking to find anyone to fill that role before actually forming a connection based on genuine compatibility, respect and care.
>>33993916>>33993810>just fuck other chicks bro, that'll make her want to be your gf
>>33993573You sound like a needy whiny little bitch and you're wondering why her pussy dries up when you text?
>>33993910Learn empathy, my guy.
>>33993573Sounds like she only wants you around when shes bored and doesnt really care about you even as a friend. Ghost her and move on. Otherwise youll always be the plannner and never the "planned for".
I mean why not actually confront and communicate?
>>33993929What are you talking about? I was involved with a chick who happened to be mentally ill. We were exclusive, sweet to each other, and functionally a relationship. One day she left.What sins am I atoning for exactly??
>>33993945Idk, maybe another situation where you wronged someone. Also, good for you, but you described it as a situationship, not a relationship.
>>33993951I'm not OP. What's with the accusatory, dickish tone?
>>33993942Sounds like that's what OP intends on doing.Although, in my experience, you never really get the closure you want in these situations. It would be so much easier if an isolated incident were to blame - someone cheated, or lied, or there was a big fight and someone said something they couldn't take back. But in reality, it's a slow accumulation of things, and we don't realize it while it's happening. So the honest to god answer from a chick will sound bullshitty and unsatisfying - "I dunno, it's just different now."
>>33993810This post smells like a really Jewish attempt to keep dudes foreveralone. A mans job is to make offspring full stop. The real men are the ones who got their pick of women in high school/college and arent filtering through the dating market/tinder for scraps. If anything the one good leverage men have over women is that while women are the gatekeepers of pussy men are the gatekeepers of marriage. Wanting transparency doesnt make you beta. If youre suggesting he let women waste his time with women that arent gonna marry him anyway thats really pathetic and beta.OP also needs to figure out what it is he really wants though. If you want a fuckbuddy then expect this kinda shit but if you want a life partner then he needs to be making different choices.
>>33993979>If you want a fuckbuddy then expect this kinda shit but if you want a life partner then he needs to be making different choices.This is true, although I understand where OP's coming from. Girl won't commit, so you stay down hoping she'll come around. Over time, she does commit more and act relationship-y. Then one day she dips.It really is true that all's fair in love and war. Nothing makes sense in the world of emotion, and things that were solid one minute go poof the next.
>>33993986You have an interesting way of speaking… but I’m gonna have to agree with the above. And also, are you just going for a relationship with anybody that sticks? If someone won’t commit that’s not a cue to try harder, imo.
>>33994000>And also, are you just going for a relationship with anybody that sticks?Not necessarily. I've only been in committed relationships, with the exception of this one chick. So I can understand how things can get ambiguous and tricky - how you can intellectually understand that it's not likely to work out, but be too emotionally invested to break it off.
>>33993573OP just for clarification, is someone you've been talking to? Or someone you've actually been with?
>>33993573It's probably a BPDemon(or a cunt, doesn't matter). Don't chase after someone that will fuck you up. Forget her.Best you can do is try to communicate this shit clearly, just once. If she's still flaky then immediately drop her for your own sake.
