To put it plainly, I am chopped shit. I have a boyfriend, but I feel disgusting and pathetic every time we have sex. I also can't finish. I can masturbate but I hate porn, it's soulless. I want to stop craving male attention and sex altogether. I want to completely abstain from it. I know it's gonna be a slow process, but how does one get over wanting attention from the opposite sex? And a follow-up question, where does my desire for attention end, and my true personality begin? Clown on me as you wish, but I hope someone can give me /some/ answers.
>>3399374699% of the planet would like to have sex and you are part of that group. There are ways to kill your sex drive, like some medications, but you are not going to get rid of your desire for affection and intimacy. It would be far easier and healthier to deal with whatever it is that makes you feel gross about having sex
>>33993746You don't like your boyfriend or you have burned out your pussy by either using some gigantic dildo or too much porn.Go cold turkey on porn and try to find out what you like about him.Everyone dream's about getting positive attention even guy dream of being a hero.Probably social Programing
>>33993746It probably sucks ass how good it feels when you receive positive attention from a dude who isn't your boyfriend, right? And then the shittiness of *liking* how shitty it is just compounds the feeling.It's a frustrating knot of emotion.
I’m a guy and very asexual don’t need to jerk off for days if need be. My advice for you is to kill yourself. Take a bottle of Benadryl and wash it down with whiskey. I’m going to mcdonald now
>>33993746You’re eitherA. A Nervous wreck to begin with. You need to fix this first since it’s likely impacting your relationship and ability to let you enjoy yourselfB. Not happy with the relationship itself which is causing A to occur.Either way you’re not gonna enjoy yourself if you’re not happy.
>>33993746> where does my desire for attention end, and my true personality begin?You are a woman.
>>33993746Good luck.Women pretty much live off of male attention.Maybe try Buddhism or something.I'm confused as to why you feel disgusting when you have sex.Sounds like something you need therapy for.
>>33993746You'll probably skip this but i will say it with all sincerity. Take up the cross and follow Christ.For me personally it was an addiction for a long time, ultimately i felt humiliated by examples such as Mary, Mother of God or many other nuns who rejected this degenerate lifestyle in its entirety to focus on the greater good.The way to chastity is hard, and you'll always feel urges, but you'll progress through right action, you'll progress if you never engage and go another mile in the opposite direction.I used to also be an attention grabber, even doing things such as parkour, skateboarding or breakdancing to get eyes on me, but now, i am content if by the Grace of the Lord i die alone.
Hey all, OP again. Thanks for all the replies, even the one telling me to kill myself. Kinda opened my eyes to the fact that I need to talk to my bf and probably read the Bible for a change. I have, indeed, always been a nervous wreck and find it borderline impossible to have tough conversations, leading to frustration and resentment of the person in question. I can confidently say I do have (albeit abandoned) interests and hobbies outside of men, and it is my responsibility to take them up again. No one is gonna cure me. Especially not a man. Thanks everyone. <3
>>33994238Ahem cough based coughYeah op doesn't like her boyfriend. Break up with him stop wasting his time
>>33993746Something made you feel this way. So there is no was out of this. I don't know how old you are and what you do, usually this is a sign of something. such as may be you are growing up as individual mentally and professionally and you are in a meaningless relationship in which case this is simply that realization. You are practical or found something with higher priority and realized you do not care about this relationship as you used to, and this is okay. The good news is you don't have to seek attention all the time, that is not healthy specially once you are in relationship, it is a sign of a little bit maturity but mixed with confusion. Women used to join church and do these other things to discipline themselves. My advice for you is, if this is a psychological problem, you will end up loosing test for a lot more stuff and this is just the beginning. My advice is get married to someone you could love and form family and make babies fast, you might find meaning there and rescue yourself. These might be a problem for you if you wait too long. Do something and get out of these confusion, start a company, family ... something that replaces your ego, and bring you joy and hope or keep you busy, and something you won't regret, and good luck!
