My best friend is a guy, and I'm 99% sure I'm a lesbian. I've never felt physical attraction to a man, I've never really "looked" at a guy that kind of way, and the only time I've felt physical interest has been with other women.My guy friend recently started doing things for me that have been stirring up emotions I haven't felt before. Like he listens to me better than anyone else in my life, and he remembers even the dumbest little details like they're important. He fixed a few problems I was having a lot of anxiety about and I felt this huge sense of relief and gratitude and I started seeing him a little differently.We kissed, and it escalated from there into more intimate settings, and now we're sort of in an unofficial sort of relationship. I'm worried this infatuation will fade though, and that since I never felt a physical thing for guys that I'll have ruined my friendship if I let this become a real relationship.Should I break things off now before I risk this getting out of hand, or will it probably be fine to see it through?
>>33994296>Should I break things off now before I risk this getting out of hand, or will it probably be fine to see it through?Break it off and go back to women.
>I'm 99% sure I'm a lesbian>gets a crush on a guy, fucks him, and falls in loveI'm so happy you can vote :)
>>33994296Congrats ur bi now
>>33994300That really sucks to consider but it's probably responsible for keeping the friendship from getting cooked.>>33994335Its a little more complicated than that.>>33994340Idk that I am, because I don't feel anything for any men other than my friend. Like I don't suddenly find men attractive.
>>33994296he's a lesbian just like you
>>33994296Physical and emotional attraction aren't mutually exclusive. The lines can be blurry, especially when you're young and still developing a sexual identity. I wouldn't worry too much about labeling yourself or limiting yourself to preconceived notions about your sexuality. Any infatuation can fade, OP. Try not to stress too much about it.
>>33994296I am friends with my ex and we were friends before.
>>33994296>99% sure I'm a lesbian.You will never be a woman.
>>33994296You've been bisexual all this time and you just needed to meet a guy you likedSometimes that happensYou may have a greater preference for one gender than the other, but it doesn't mean you only like one gender
>>33994296Do you actually like him or are you just using him as an emotional dumpster
>>33994296"I've always liked chocolate ice cream. But recently someone offered me some vanilla, and I liked it. That confuses me."You ARE allowed to like both flavors.
>>33994354Have you told him honestly about your sexual proclivities? There’s no rule that you should only date women. So long as he’s aware you’re kind of “heterocurious,” and only for him, so there’s a chance the infatuation may fade, if he’s okay with that possibility and still wants to try them all is well
>>33994296moids just want to have sex and cause suffering. moids are incapable of bonding with women. moids hate women.never engage with this moidiot again.
>>33994296I was friends with my wife before we got married and we've remained friends during the 27 years (so far) of our marriage.
>>33994296>I've never felt physical attraction to a man, I've never really "looked" at a guy that kind of wayBecause like all modern women your standards are so utterly fucked that to you, 99.9% of guys are "unattractive"You're mentally ill and were probably diddled as a kid. Let your new BF (congratulations) dick you down to heal you.>>33994354>Its a little more complicated than that.>YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND MUH FEEEEELIIIIIINGSYeah women should not vote.
>>33995571You are a biological (XY chromosomes) male.
>>33995967Zased
>>33994379I'm just afraid that if we go further, and he develops deeper feelings but my crush goes away? I don't want to do that to him. I care about him more than that, he's my best friend.>>33994396Statistically shouldn't I have liked at least one guy though? Like even just a celebrity crush or something?>>33994430I'm confused and that's what I'm afraid of. He's more important to me than any of my other friends, so I really don't want to do that to him.>>33994787He knows, I've always worn my pride pin pretty openly and I've talked to him about women I've liked before.>>33995844Was your wife like me though? Did she prefer women before you both started dating?
>>33996260>Statistically shouldn't I have liked at least one guy though?are you actually physically attracted to him though everything you described so far seems like more of a emotional attraction
>>33996260>I'm just afraid that if we go further, and he develops deeper feelings but my crush goes away?That can happen in any relationship. Its a legitimate concern but the fear of developing a deep relationship only to lose feelings later on is the reality regardless of which gender you date.>I don't want to do that to him. I care about him more than that, he's my best friend.Well it seems the issue is more that he's your best friend, not that he's a man. If your best friend were a woman the conflict of trying to maintain a friendship and a romantic relationship would be exactly the same.
>>33996905Not really. There's an emotional attraction that kind of, when I'm feeling the emotions, opens up a physical attraction if that makes sense. But just looking at him under normal situations I don't feel aroused or anything.>>33996930That makes sense. I feel weird thinking about a future with him because I never pictured myself with a guy, but that makes sense.
>>33996954>That makes sense. I feel weird thinking about a future with him because I never pictured myself with a guy, but that makes sense.I don't mean this to come off as encouraging you one way or another but as we age, especially out of our 20's, its pretty common to do things you never saw yourself doing. I think it would be most productive to focus on your emotions and intentions. Don't worry too much about sticking to whatever preconceived rules or vision you had for your life. What I mean is - don't deny yourself an opportunity because you feel like you're not supposed to. Allow yourself to experiment with change. Its really the only way we find out who we are and what we want.
>>33994296>Should I break things off now before I risk this getting out of hand, or will it probably be fine to see it through?I other words:>Should I destroy everything before everything destroys itself?LOLDude, FFS, there's not lesbianism. Get rid of the parasites withing you and accept Jesus as your savior.Deus vult
>>33997040I'm just afraid of him thinking it was all just a game to me if I do lose the infatuation. I want him to know I'm taking it seriously, even if it doesn't work out.
>>33997501>I want him to know I'm taking it seriously, even if it doesn't work out.Then tell him that. It does you no favors to hold back what you're really thinking for his sake. It does both of you more harm in the end. At least if you open up and tell him everything you're concerned about as far as your sexuality and your attraction to him goes you can give him an opportunity to make the decision whether or not he wants to continue on his own. Not telling him and pretending like everything is fine only takes away his agency.
>>33994335SPBP
>>33994296Man why do women write the gayest shit ever? Yes you're lesbian but then all women are gay.
