I've never been in this situation, I've never gotten close to any woman who was in a relationship or anyone I work with. But this... is different. She is older than me, extremely nice, has a pretty face, is small (like 5'1"/1.55m) which is especially attractive to me. I have noticed for some time that she has a special attraction to me. We talk a lot, she laughs at my jokes, we exchange looks and touches (but so far nothing sexual)... Well, the last time we exchanged snapchats. At first she was quite reserved and several times she left the conversation until the next day. I didn't mention anything to her and I didn't write her anything back on purpose, I told myself that if this is her current desire, then so be it. Until two days ago when she started opening up to me on snapchat. She told me what she usually feels when she is with me, that she wants my closeness and that she often fantasizes about me. That she is excited when I touch her and asked me about my sexual fantasies. She literally said that she would let me do whatever I wanted. She wanted details and we started sexting (no pics)... Should I go ahead with this? I really want her but I'm afraid we'll both become very emotionally attached to each other (it's already happening) and I don't know how we'll handle the situation. What do you suggest?Fucking hell
>>33994735>Should I go ahead with this? I really want her but I'm afraid we'll both become very emotionally attached to each other (it's already happening) and I don't know how we'll handle the situation. What do you suggest?what a shitty "dilemma" to be had, you're gonna proceed with it no matter what any robot says
Consider that she's using you as an excuse to stir up drama in her life because she's bored, despite knowing full well how it might negatively impact you at your job. I'd tell her to fuck off.
>>33994735Is she married? Yes? walk away.No? go for it.
Dude, do whatever you think is best cuz Life is too short..
>>33994735As a single guy in my early-mid 20s I got involved with 3 women who were older and married (not open marriages, affairs). Some of the best times of my life emotionally and sexually. I can't tell you to do it or not do it, you need to decide that for yourself.
dont shit where u eat, not worth itbut it looks like ur retarded and already done enough damage, so go for it i guess
>>33994735Emotionally can't give advice. I tend towards going for things when it's not destructive to any party. But for a practical consideration:Is the work dispensable for you?Is either of you tenured and/or indispensable at the workplace? Things to consider when shit hits the fan.
>>33994735Just because they don't respect their relationship doesn't mean you shouldn't
>>33994735Ignoring all the moral and ethical arguments against sleeping with your married coworker, of which there are many, the biggest problem is you might end up needing to take “responsibility” for the bitch if her marriage goes klablooey Like >>33994759 said she’s bored and wants spice in her life again. That “spice” could end up causing her to think there’s no point in staying with her husband when she has her boy toy at work, so she monkeybranches from him to you. And now she gets to start the cycle all over again with >(You). You always lose em how you get em. Smarten up OP. I’m dealing with a similar situation, not a coworker but a colleague I see at professional networking events a lot is down bad for me but she’s engaged. I want to dick her down, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t want to end up in a situation where she tried to monkeybranch to me or where I’d have to dump her after pumping her but still see her at professional events. She’s attractive yeah, but a girl who cheats with you will cheat on you, and nothing is worth the potential social turmoil.
>>33994823Can you read?Yes? Save yourself writing obvious advice.No? Write your post anyway.
>>33995372>you might end up needing to take “responsibility” for the bitch if her marriage goes klablooeyWhy would OP "need" to do that? Unless she has videos fo him fucking children or somethign I see no pathway for this woman to force OP to do anything. Never mind that her relationship is already FUBAR if she is looking to cheat. That said, partaking in cheating always invites drama, and having that at your workplace is more likely than not to lead to a shitshow.
>>33994897Life isn’t that short. I’m almost 40 and feel like I’ve been alive forever. That’s just a terrible excuse to justify bad decisions and it won’t work when you get older.
>>33995411>Why would OP "need" to do that? Men lead and women follow. If she ends up wanting more than some side dick she will try to monkeybranch and OP is going to have to deal with that one way or another. I didn't clarify that this wouldn't be a problem if she wasn't a coworker, but because OP sees her all the time at his job he can't just ghost her easily after having his fun. He could try, but you're right in that it will lead to a shitshow.
