My bf and I had an ongoing discussion about our sexual interests a couple months back. We have been together for 6 years. One of the things we talked about potentially trying was him being with a man, as a bottom, and me I guess watching, maybe degrading him or joining to some degree.Now, in the past I sometimes masturbated to yaoi hentai (but also yuri and straight), and some gay porn can arouse me. However, when we started actually talking about potentially doing it irl, I started really thinking it through, and I feel so conflicted about it, that it's starting to ruin my life. Sometimes I can masturbate to the idea of watching him getting fucked, but as soon as I cum I regret it immediately, kind of like post nut clarity? And I start thinking rationally again, and I start imagining him being touched like that by another person, a man, and my heart drops to my stomach.No matter how many times I share my worries with him, no matter what he says, it doesn't alleviate my concern. I'm worried he might realise he is more than just bi-curious, even though he vehemently says that he isn't actually attracted to men. For example, I have sometimes fantasized about being in a similar situation, with a woman dominating me. The difference is, to me it is kind of a whim, a spur of the moment thing, but he has mentioned he is worried he could have some kind of existential crisis because he didn't try what he wanted to now that he isn't old yet. I don't have that worry, it's just one of many fantasies for me.What the fuck do I do anons? I really love him. He is my first and only love. But my heart hurts so badly when I think about this shit. I feel like I can't trust him as much, if at all, regarding this.
Set a boundry that you don't want to involve other people in you're sex life.Or, you could find a hooker so there is a "professional" aspect as a seperator. Or you could just peg him. Don't discuss the pegging thing with him just get everything for it and dominate him. Even if you aren't into it, his degen fantasies will stop once he spills poop all over his side of the bed.
>>33995773We have already tried pegging, I like it. I just don't like the idea of a third person being with us and participating irl. I feel like I am gonna regret it considering how much it worries me. But I am also conflicted because the fantasy of it can sometimes arouse me, until I cum, then the reality and potential consequences set in.
>>33995784yes that's post nut clarityyou already answered your own question and concerns within your own postset your boundaries and stick to them before you start disrespecting yourself
>>33995795Yes, but idk how to proceedConsidering how much trying this means to him, I am concerned I will always worry about him potentially cheating on me with a guy so he can have the experience.
My ex flat out told me if I ever fucked a man she'd lose all attraction to me. If you let him do it be prepared to potentially be irreversibly physically disgusted by him.
>>33995645moids never turn down sex. so at any opportunity, moids cheat and have gay sex
>>33995784What exactly do you mean by consequences? The big ones i can think of, if you do agree to do it, are STDs or him leaving you because he goes full gay. But those are both preventable by testing beforehand and having a mature conversation with him addressing those things directly. There is also the fact that you simply don't want to involve another person in the bedroom. If you aren't ok with that, then he needs to weigh your relationship vs having gay sex. Which is a fleeing moment of carnal pleasure against a rewarding lifetime commitment (ideally)Also, I've seen girls breakup the second their man asks something like this the instant they brought it up. You questioning this and not making a decision is throwing the base of the relationship in the air. Either you're ok being a cuckqueen every now and again or you need to throw the ball in his court by firmly saying "no". That's a bit harsh but I also think it's accurate.
>>33995841Im conflicted about making the decision because I understand him in part. I understand what arouses him about it in theory at least, but like I mentioned, the regret/disgust after cumming to the idea of it worry me. I feel its like my subconscious warning me. We talked about my concerns, esp the ones you mentioned, STDs and him going full gay. He says we can avoid STDs if we are careful, and that he will never become gay and that men dont attract him in that way, that he could never love a man. I dont know if I believe him though, considering he said he *might* have an existential crisis if he doesnt try it.>>33995816I love him so much I am not sure I could be truly disgusted by him. I think I would moreso hate myself if I disliked it, because I let it happen and participated in at least some degree, willingly.
>>33995861The "exisential crisis" talk is kinda silly to me.>my life is incomplete because I didn't have butt sex when I was twentyIt's a strange hill to die on. Anyway, if I were you I would follow my gut and put my foot down about not involving other people in the bedroom. Best of luck OP
>>33995839Stop projecting, tranny. Other men don't act like you do. This is why you repulse women.
>>33995861>We talked about my concerns, esp the ones you mentioned, STDs and him going full gay. He says we can avoid STDs if we are careful, and that he will never become gay and that men dont attract him in that way, that he could never love a man.OP, listen to me: He wants dick. He is ALREADY gay.
>>33996068Im worried that even if I put my foot down, my trust in him will be lessened. Either he tries it in secret, or doesn't and potentially resent me down the line, so what are my other options if going through with it seems to be a mistake as well? I love him so much, if it wasn't for this, it would be as perfect as can be.
have a ghetto thug give him the "wyboy raped in jail" treatmentif he's a sane straight man he will immediately forget why he let Internet porn get him into this and realize immediately it does not feel good in real life
