How do I get out of the house?Before and during covid I was fucking, riding motorcycles, mountain biking, hiking. And had friends for these. I also was binge drinking. Now that I quit drinking I hardly have the motivation to do anything but my job, basic exercise and sleep. Seeing people go full mask off over the vaccines made me pretty black pilled. Then my friends moved away, I moved, one died. I have 2 friends within driving distance but an hour away and we don't really hang.I don't have agrophobia but I just find myself counting down when I can go home. Or aimlessly driving by myself, stopping maybe for gas then going home.I could go into the office but it's 90% of them are foreigners and I have shy bladder so hate having to piss it's always so awkward.In theory I'm in my prime, house, car, money for any hobby, healthy no alcohol, can run or climb a mountain without a second thought but I feel so stuck. Coffee is the only thing that motivates me even a little bit, I love mornings because the day is fresh, then I just waste it here.
>>33996495bumping because i'm also confirmed homebody. but would like to be less so. don't expect much OP most likely response will be in the vain of >JUST BUY MORE LOTTO TICKETS TILL YOU WIN! DON'T THINK ABOUT THE COST OR THE ODDS JUST KEEP BUYING LOSER!
>>33996495You need to formulate a LONG TERM GOAL, anon.You are an adult now, and the world is NOT going to get any better. Really sit down and define WHAT you'd want if it were achievable in 2-3 years.Concrete goals, like I want My own place again, I want to have a community of friends who all live in the same area.But just getting out of the house?Seems you've just habituated lack of inertia, and have made it your baseline comfy.It's good you quit drinking, and Bars are nothing but a way to drain all the money from your wallet, but there are plenty of other ways to get back into being semi-social, even if you are an introvert.When was the last time you went to the library?They often have groups who meet there and sometimes even free programs in things like Apiary or other cool stuff like Maker groups--Hell, even Philatelists.If it's just a matter of motivation, you just need to challenge your old patterns by doing stuff completely new to you; and by that I mean going down streets you've never been, into places you've never been, etc.Shake that routine up.Go to a gaming shop and poke around, do a Rando search for "[X] groups/stores/activities in my area" then pick a day of the week, and even if it's only for a few hours after work, or on the weekend, make that your "Explorer day"I'd need more info to help out further.It really helps to get off the old beaten track though.
>>33996495I should also say anon: I've been there too.Seriously. If you don't live in an area where you are likely to be mugged just walking around, driving to a new spot and parking then walking around for a few hours,(sunglasses are a nice social shielding,) and being completely free to go into wherever you never have been before can really help with inertia.
>>33996495I'm wondering this too. On my days off I have no real desire to do anything outside of homebody stuff. Like reading or practicing piano or working out I never have plans and don't have a real social circle nor do I know where and how to find one since I'm in my 30s
>>33996495I'm also in the same boat, In reality I think it's because I have no clear goal in life right now so there is no motivation to do anything. I do just mainly sit on my PC after work and on weekends doing fuck all, mostly doomscrolling and smoking weed for the last couple months but i've stopped the weed and I've stopped the doomscrolling but now it's just waiting for my brain to get back to normality and maybe I'll try and start a yt shorts channel or something to occupy my time.
>>33996495It sounds like to root of your problems is your lack of friends. That seems to be the key difference between when you were active and your current self. Try making new friends so that you can do things together.
>>33996618>>33996711>>33996724>>33996833>>33996865>>33996887Interesting how common this is. Indeed a lot of the things I do want to work on are solitary like practicing piano
It's SO WEIRD(same poster as >33996711&>33996724)Everyone ITT could be in a social group IRL if they were in proximity.The issue is the geographical separation.Used to be fairly easy to "Just start a social group" on CL or something, but after the last 5 years, with how garbage and low trust the world has become, the motivation to be "Disappointed again" just isn't there.Maybe you guys ITT could brainstrom how to create a network of male social groups or something. I'll bet there are Hundreds of thousands of guys who would love tahat sort of thing.It wouldn't have to be a specialized activity group either, just a bunch of guys kicking around Ideas of how to improve their lives by getting together and doing shit.Again: Long term goals and something to work towards are a great thing to have, and forcing yourself to experience entirely NEW things and paths, even just by yourself, can break the habituation of a rut.>>33996887True, but so many people are so guarded these days, and apparently willing to "Ghost" others at the drop of a hat.Men NEED to have a smol local "Tribe" of men they can rely on. that's a big part of what's lacking in today's society, and why there just isn't much MEANING.Women SEEM to have this, but it's not at all the same since there is a constant tension between competition and cooperation from those considered Out-Group for whatever reasons.Men don't do that.You have value to the group through MERIT, whether skills, strength, intellect or Ability. Men will allow guys they don't agree with or even like very much to be part of their group, simply because he fulfils a missing part of said group.Honestly, the guys ITT should be CREATING groups IRL with the goal of creating Business ideas and strategies for IRL success in community building.That may be a bit much without already having some LTGs in place.
>>33996495Covid separated the wheat from the chaff and you anon are the chaff. That shit ended almost 3 years ago.
>>33997000KILLYourself, you wretched malcontentYou'll NEVER be a Woman, and Ironically, can NEVER be a Man now either.
>>33996932>but so many people are so guarded these daystheir is a good reason for that. my attempts to meet people have an almost 10 to 1 to 0 response rate of scammer to people selling something that isn't a complete scam to actual interested person.
>>33996495I'm gonna go against the grain and say you are thinking too much. You don't need great plans to get out of your house. In fact, having plans might be detrimental, because now you have lost the habit of going out and you should make it low stakes to get back into it. You say you have money, a car, and interests. Just pick something you want to do (preferably something where you meet people but not necessarily) and actually do it as soon as possible. The more you do the stuff you want to do, the easier it'll become, the more you'll get out, the more you'll meet people and have experience to share when you talk. Dont be an improover. Just actually do whatever you want to do.
>>33996495>I was fucking,>And had friends for these.Normgoid
