>>34000914
By making your decision and sticking with it. If you've decided to love and be with someone then love and be with them. If you decide you can't then stop wasting your time and theirs and leave. You have to set up emotional boundaries for yourself and then stick to them. There's no use in being with someone if you can't be present with them in the moment. If you're living in the past and they're trying to build a future then you are fundamentally incompatible and you need to decide what to do about it.

>>34000914
kill every person that has been with her before

I'm a woman

>>34000914
>How can someone overcome retroactive jelousy in a relationship?
By reflecting that he or she knows exactly what options are available and, out of all of them, they have chosen to be with you. This is a far greater compliment than a virgin being attracted to you. A virgin is probably only interested because they don't yet realise how much better they could do; one day they'll figure it out and leave you. But someone who has experienced everything that a partner could possibly offer, and still thinks you're the best thing out there? That person will stay with you.

Thank you so much

>>34001661
This and also applies to men and women
I’m in a weird situationship with my ex who was a virgin before I met him and now he wants to “keep experiencing the world”.
I’m devastated by this concept because I fully understand it but I already lived everything I wanted to and I still have many options but I wanted him to settle with him. I really saw an eternity by his side.
You’re fine OP, I say this as a woman who can’t have retroactive jealousy. You’re better with a partner who already has some life experience.

>>34001661
This only works if they were the one to end all their prior relationships.
OP may be dealing with a “one that got away” issue where the ex would absolutely be able to steal them back if they changed their mind.
I was that guy once and it was really rough on the guys my ex dated after me when I’d just show up every so often and she’d throw herself at me, sometimes successfully.

>>34001825
It's perfectly possible for someone to be hung up on somebody even if they have never actually dated them; which means that even if you date someone with no previous experience, it's quite possible they're in love with someone who isn't you. Targeting someone who isn't experienced won't protect you from this.