My friends are mostly guys, and I heard from them enough horror stories about women they dated that I decided to try avoiding doing the same things with my bf.My bf and I are having sex, and we're at the point we started talking about kinks. I told him I couldn't promise I'd do anything a second time, but I'd try any kink he was interested in at least once.He gave me a couple "to test the waters" and I'm a little shocked at what he handed me. I was expecting spanking or like, tying me up or something but he's into something a lot weirder and I feel cringe thinking about doing it.I'm tempted to be like, "hey so I am willing to stick to my word and give this a shot but it feels kind of extreme and I'm reluctant about it". I need some sanity checks here. Is that a reasonable way to handle this?
>>34001172It sounds reasonable to me. I don't think you necessarily need to reiterate the point about doing this only once. You've both already agree to those terms, right? So nervously belaboring the point might just pollute the waters and kill any chance of you guys enjoying this. (I understand there's little to no chance of you trying this again, just saying for the sake of keeping an open mind.)What exactly is he asking for?
fuck you for not saying what the request was you engagement baiting retard whore
>>34001208It's nuts how dudes will post shit like this, then two days later make a thread crying about how women won't talk to them.
>>34001215yeah well i get upset with this sort of stuff.and i just know that op is trolling. he knew he would get asked what the request was and then he gets a free bump and then he can post something ultra baity like it's scat or dog fucking or something
>>34001192He gave me a few things he wanted to try. Some of it is normal, or normal adjacent, like he wants me to try stuff like a remote vibrator so he could buzz me from work, blindfolds, that kind of stuff.The weirder stuff is hypnosis stuff and I'm open to trying that, but the particulars are where it got a little too strange for me.
>>34001350Is it play pretend hypnosis, where you just wants to RP like you're under his control? Or is he actually trying to hypnotize you?
>>34001386He wants actual hypnosis. He sent me a link to a website that had the files, and he wants me to start listening to them to put the 'triggers' in my head.
>>34001431And this isn't at all within the realm of stuff you guys get off on? You don't dirty talk about him controlling you or w/e? This is totally out of left field?Also, what kind of persona is her trying to inject into you with this hypnosis?
>>34001172you are allowed to express boundaries in the bedroom, with or without kink involved.i would just say no if you felt the request, idea or kink to be outlandish or you simply don't like the idea.
>>34001431(NTA) As someone with some experience of erotic hypnosis (from the dominant side) I might possibly be able to answer some questions about it, if you have some...?
>>34001172Sounds like he's a pervert. There's no reason you should be subjected to unnatural deviancy anon.Go and find someone mentally healthy.
>>34001446lmao smooth
>>34001438We're openly kinky in a joking manner, like that's our normal back and forth kind of thing, but this never came up before. He wants me to be dumb and slutty, like stereotypical gum-popping blonde sort of dumb. I'm a natural blonde but I didn't think he had some kind of dumb blonde fetish when we started dating and now I kind of wonder if this is like...foundational to his attraction to me? Ultimately I'm just worried about it impacting me negatively outside of kink stuff.>>34001442I was worried about breaking my word since I said I would try, but this feels like a lot. I may just ask about other stuff he's into to make up for it.
>>34001172Haha women date such fucking losers man. Look at what you can't have OP. A normal guy like me.
>>34001350>buzz from workWeird but funny ngl
>>34001638It probably is foundational to his attraction to you, but not necessarily in a bad way. Look at it this way - there'd be no fun in transforming you into a bimbo if you already ARE one. He clearly appreciates you for who you are, but is also turned on by the fantasy of making you into something you're not.Obviously you're within your rights to draw boundaries. But IMO this isn't as alarming as, say, making you act underage or something.
>>34001967>women only fuck moids with high status>women date such fucking losers
>>34001172>My friends are mostly guysFound the slut
>>34001172You will never be a woman.
>>34001638(NTA) I'm an oldfag, so it's actually not an exaggeration to say that I've been into kink longer than many of you have been alive. One of the first things you learn is that kink has RULES. They are rules that kinky people have spent many decades polishing and refining, to ensure that people can have a good time and not get hurt. Of course there are many people out there (mostly men) who don't care about rules - but if your bf is one of them, you should never, ever do any kind of kink with him, because it's dangerous. One of the most fundamental rules is that EVERYTHING must be based on informed consent. So, if you don't want to do something, you don't do it, and the dom/top has no choice but to accept that gracefully. If he doesn't, he is someone you should not be doing kink with. And you aren't required to justify your decision: if you don't want to do something, it doesn't happen; it's that simple.
>>34001172>>34001638I think you need some organisation and clarity either in your writing or with your boyfriend. He seems eager but inexperienced.The way you wrote it to us, it seems like you were open to experiment to your bf and he gave you a laundry list of very different and impractical stuff.- remote vibrator (the most sound IMO)- Hypnosis fetish were you have to work to implement the triggers on your free time so he can hypnotise you?... Sounds pretty complex to pull off, does he have any experience with hypnosis? Also if he does do you trust him with that?- You acting like you're dumb? What does that even look like in practice? You should pick 1 thing with him and get him to yell you exactly what he wants, and see if you like that. Also don't hesitate to tell him if what he wants is impractical or inappropriate.> I was worried about breaking my wordI think you are taking that a bit too seriously. You said you wanted to try all his kinks, that's nice of you, but maybe you didn't mean you would try anything and everything all at the same time? Don't hesitate to assert yourself a little bit, you obviously have good intentions but I think your bf needs some... structure.
>>34001172Basic Rule of Sex: Never do ANYTHING unless both are equally enthusiastic about it.Corollary: You DO have the right to say No, without excuse or explanation
>>34001172OP: I am willing to try a kinky thing with youOP's bf: okay listen to these audio tracks and I expect a 6 page essay on each one about what you learned on my desk by MONDAY and NO I will NOT accept late work.First off, there are lots of ways to become hypnotized. Im guessing that you havent exored that yourself very much yet. Might be a good idea to get him in on this too so that he can also learn.While ur bf is certainly giving you some info about what he is into,,, personally, I find the whole "have someone else hypnotize you for me" kinda weird. Your negotiation was that you're supposed to kink Together, right? Why can't he hypnotize you himself?
>>34001638>worried about breaking my word since I said I would tryIf you're ever worried about breaking your word, add new words. "I will do x" becomes "i will do x within a set of parameters after a set amount of time"
>>34001172>but I'd try any kink he was interested in at least once.lol uhhh okay that's a good idea if your bf is relatively normal but there are some really really extreme people out there so maybe in future relationships reconsider such a policy.
>>34005699>>I'll try anything once!Cool cool so you're okay with me stabbing you in the neck until you bleed out right?
>>34005632>okay listen to these audio tracks and I expect a 6 page essay on each one about what you learned on my desk by MONDAY and NO I will NOT accept late work.Yeah the strangest thing about this is how boring and academic this guy's fetish is. And don't a lot of girls turn their brain off and lower their inhibitions during sex anyway?He should just tell OP to stick her tongue out and say some ditzy shit while he's fucking her, and she'd probably do it with exactly the gusto he's looking for.
>>34005792>>He should just tell OP to stick her tongue out and say some ditzy shit while he's fucking her, and she'd probably do it with exactly the gusto he's looking for.Exactly. Like, she wants to do kinky stuff with him, shouldn't he want to do the same? OP and bf need to have a serious talk abt how they play together
>>34001431Hypnosis isn't real for the most part.He has a mind control/hypno kink, which I would put on the same level as BDSM.He just wants you to pretend you are under his control so he can let go of guilt while he is fucking you.But why do women do this?They will have a good thing going on and then mess it up by asking stupid stuff like tell me your darkest secrets.I would never fall for this bait and I am beta as hell.If you asked me this question, I would lie and say something boring like sex blindfolded or reverse cowgirl.
>>34001172How many of these "guy friends" have you fucked? Honest question as I'm doing a survey.
>>34001172He wants pee sex. It's not so bad. Do it in the shower. Rinse it all off. But I warn ya, the steam makes the pee smell waft into your nostrils and it will make both of you gag.
