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I'm a 24 y/o virgin. I'm short, fat and chopped. I've never been in a relationship before, not even held hands with a girl. It's so fucking pathetic. Women are always cold towards me, I'm such an unloveable piece of shit.

I'm addicted to cuckold porn. I've been fapping to porn since I was 13 and developed tastes for femdom porn early on. Tall, muscular, dominant women. Then I started fapping to tranny porn. And over the last year or two I've become addicted to cuckold porn. It's completely destroying me. I don't know what to do.
>inb4 just quit porn bro ez pz
I've tried so many times.

I think the fact that women constantly reject me IRL has made me hate myself and eroticize my humiliation. That's fueled my addiction. I'm also jealous of women (not in a troon way) of just how easy it is for them to get laid and find love. Something that is as easy as breathing for them is as difficult as moving a mountain for me. They have double digit body counts, enjoying life, partying while I'm just rotting at home. I just want to feel loved.

I really don't know what to do. Don't know how to dig myself out of this hole. If you have any practical advice other than "it's over bro kys" please share it with me. Any help is appreciated, thanks.
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>>34002082
>get laid and find love
these are the same in moidspeak, quit yapping
>They have double digit body counts
mine is 0, unless you count greetings and a boy i hanged out with when i was like 7, as a delusional moid might.
>partying
everything else aside, im autistic and antisocial, i aint partying LMFAO
>I just want to feel loved
you just want to be feared. Maybe y'all really dont know the difference
>If you have any practical advice
buy prostitutes
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>>34002082
Why not just be a cuck? The worst that can happen is the experience sucks and you're cured of your addiction.
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>24 y/o virgin. I'm short, fat and chopped
Lets add some positives here
>I'm addicted to cuckold porn
Not like that
>that women constantly reject me IRL has made me hate myself and eroticize my humiliation
You have to be loveable to be loved. Example of not loveable: >>34002462
>Something that is as easy as breathing for them is as difficult as moving a mountain for me
Men and women are different. Feminism lied. You can't do everything a woman can.
>>34002488
He can't find a woman to lovingly cuck him.
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>>34002531
>offer nothing but lies and pain
>constantly demand sex
>get rejected
>claim that women are the unlovable ones
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>>34002082
I feel you OP. I feel you. I'm just like you. Do you have any socials we could use to talk? I'm lonely and need loser friends like me to cope to.
>>34002531
based anon
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>>34002462
Not falling for your bait lilbro.
>>34002488
Because I'm not a cuck. This addiction is not organic. I don't want to be cucked. I've been watching porn for 10 years now, that has definitely fueled this addiction. Maybe I have a fear of being cucked after reading stories of virgins guys wifing up women who slept around in their 20s, like that comedian Akaash. I hate having missed out on teenage love. I wish I would've found 1 girl in highschool or college that would've spent the rest of her life with me.
>>34002531
What can I do to be loveable? I'm not physically attractive, I don't have an outstanding personality, I'm not very sociable (I don't jest or otherwise self deprecate in front of others to compensate for a lack of any of the above), I'm not rich etc. I'm just average/below average. Maybe I did something terrible in a previous life to deserve this fate.
>Men and women are different. Feminism lied. You can't do everything a woman can.
I know but it pains me because women keep complaining about how tough their lives are, it feels like a mockery of what I'm going through.

For the positives:
I have a really good best friend I can share everything with. He's kind of a loser like me. I have 2 loving parents who provided me with everything I could want. Sometimes I feel like they deserved a better son. I'm not particularly short for my country, in fact I'm very average. I don't think I'm very ugly, just average, but the extra weight makes things worse. I have a master's degree, I'm debt free. I exercise regularly now and I'm a good chess player. I talk respectfully with people. I dress well, I keep myself groomed.
>>34002930
I don't feel comfortable giving anything out. Why don't you share your socials and I'll think about reaching out to you.
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>>34002082
>I'm such an unlovable piece of shit
This is logically untrue. I won't lie and give you fake overly positive bullshit contradictory sentiments, but really OP that is untrue. Love is something that takes the human psyche at least 3 months to build with another human. It's not something that is occurring instantly. If women who don't even know you on a deep level are cold to you, it is not because you are unlovable. They can't possibly know how loveable or unlovable you are, they don't know you that way. Therefore you cannot say you are unlovable. Your mind is shitposting itself, you can safely ignore it.

As for your self analysis, you are correct. You eroticized your own suffering. You did this as a way to cope with suffering. But you chose the wrong cope, that's all.

>I've tried to quit porn so many times.
And you keep going back. That is normal if you have not found something to replace it. Your first instinct is you will tell yourself to replace it with a real live girl in a real relationship. Then you will try to get one, you will feel stuck or may face a rejection, you will feel humiliated, you will go back to porn. On an on like a cycle.

Replace the porn with something that is not sex related, love related, or women or relationship related. Replace it with a hobby, a job, a skill, a passion, an activity, a project, anything that makes you use your mind and body for any single purpose. It could even be videogames or books or movies. Find something that isn't porn or women or sex and Read about it, write about it, speak about it, act on it. Make that the new coping mechanism and put the porn out of a job in your life.

Then the next time you quit porn, you will notice you quit it for longer and longer and longer.

You will relapse you will fuck up and go back to it, but it happens less and less until it goes away. Do not expect to kill porn in a single grandiose explosion. It doesnt die that way. Porn is a beast that dies by a thousand cuts.
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>>34002082
>I've tried so many times.
try again
also, women are not the end all be all quit porn for your own sake before you destroy your frontal brain
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>>34003677
>>34003705
Thanks, I will try this.



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