>>34003601
Idk because I don’t know what your problem is

>>34003601
>How do you break this cycle?
By understanding how the cycle operates. The cycle operates on familiarity and normalization. Aka habit. You made loneliness a habit, your sense of 'normal'. And when a human makes something a familiar 'normal', no matter what that thing is no matter if it's beneficial or damaging the human will always always go back to it.

Why? Because when they try to act out of cycle like meeting new people, they will feel disconnected, uncomfortable, they will feel like it's forced, inauthentic and they will look for problems them leave to go back to their old ways. In your case, loneliness.

You break the cycle by creating a new cycle. Making socializing a habit by repeatedly doing it over and over even when it sucks. Eventually you start avoiding loneliness and you will prefer meeting people instead.

>>34003642
I'm rezzing this thread from page 10 just to voice my dissent.

>You made loneliness a habit, your sense of 'normal'.
That's not what I gathered from OPs diagram and, admittedly terse, input. I think the point is that all stages in the cycle are uncomfortable in some way and it's frustrating to keep tumbling from one to the next.

>Making socializing a habit by repeatedly doing it over and over even when it sucks.
This is especially bad advice. There's no reward, absolutely nothing to be gained from tolerating people past your limit. You owe it to yourself to set boundaries and be unabashed in defending them. Else you go from "meet new people" to "new people suck" real fast.

In general there's nothing wrong with the dichotomy. Be lonely sometimes, be friendly sometimes. Who cares? But if loneliness is an unwanted symptom of social interaction gone wrong, it's time to study those interactions and set some boundaries.

>>34003642
>>34006681
I think that's a pretty interesting suggestion, anon. How many days does it take to turn something into a habit? Do you recommend any books?

>>34003642
Hmm. I dunno about that. I'm not OP, but I suffer from his dilemma. For me, new people aren't discomforting; they're just incredibly unstimulating. I find myself wishing I could meet more interesting people, but I never do. So I retreat back to solitude.

>>34003601
Cool pic, for me it's
1) Meet new people
2) New people are cool and we hang out, sometimes regularly
3) No gf or romantic interest derived from them
4) Depressed and confused and feeling like I don't know how to belong and I'll never know how to belong

Repeat

It's dogshit

>>34003642
OP here
some of the most mentally ill people i've ever met in my life are the kinds that feel the need to be surrounded by people 24/7, even if they hate them. You're mixing up "tolerate people you dislike" with "move on to others regularly", but even then generally the more intimate the relationship was between you and the people you ended up breaking it off with, the more time you need to look inward and try to learn from it. espcially prevalent in group settings/relationships

if you move on without taking the time to learn anything and improve yourself/know what kind of people to avoid you'll continue being miserable