>>34005334
>I notice these like heavy duty shoes shoved in the corner that are way too big for her and definitely not her style
>the shoes are gone by the time I come back with the medicine

Do you even read what you type.

>>34005334
If your that paranoid set up some nanny cams in the house when she is not there and have the videos sent directly to your phone and if she is cheating walk in on them and kick her out

Let me tell you how you can fight this as a 2025 millennial or Gen Z man. You need to convince her better to stay with you by your example. She's looking around and just seeing you sit on the couch and tell jokes, ha-ha. Or she sees you go in the home with a gee golly wizz folks I can't wait to see my wife, type of cringe attitude. You need to be powerful. Now I'll tell you if you're abusive and mean, that's a million times worse than the examples I gave, which I would have said no shit she cheated on you. Take me for example OP, I know I'm a good person to settle down with, but my goal ain't just to be someone to settle down with it is. She has to feel like your place is her new home, not a hotel room, or hell even her gay uncle's place to stay. Make you and your place feel like such a good home she won't go anywhere else, and I promise you, she'll stay with you. A much happier and more effective way of getting someone to stop cheating.

>>34005359
And you may be saying:
"Why should I comfort my wife when I am a cuck."
THAT'S THE FUCKING POINT THE GUY SHE IS KEKING YOU WITH MAKES HER FEEL COMFORTABLE. AND IF YOU MAKE HER FEEL COMFORTABLE YOU AIN'T THE KEK ANYMORE!

>>34005334
"Hey I saw some (DESCRIBE BOOTS YOU SAW) on sale, you don't have anything like that do you?"

Why? Christmas.

>>34005334
Should've taken the boots with you to the store and came back wearing them

Alright OP, what I want you to do, is probably not confront her unless she is at a point where she doesn't comfort you. You have some competition in your relationship. Apparently this guy she likes is older, in better shape, has better common sense, and gives her fun you can't give. Go put your running shoes on, go run to the fitness center to work-out and get past this guy she is cheating on you with's level. This bird is finding better nests since it is wild and you need to be the best nest.

Trying to figure out if she cheated on you is the more sane option.

If your girl suddenly called you a cheater and tried to spitefully ruin you over some flimsy evidence you'd hate dealing with that crazy bitch too. Please be as considerate.

>>34005369
Because being angry doesn't make anyone any less cucked.

>>34005334
the shoes 99% prove it.

>>34005607
What?

>>34005607
Anon I believe you're reading my post incorrectly. Now I think I'm going to have to be a bit more direct with people like you. It seems you hate creativity.

>>34005334
>I got home early and my girlfriend would not let me into our bedroom, claiming to be sick. She asked me to go get her some medicine right away. As I was leaving, I noticed a pair of large boots that were not mine and not likely hers. When I returned with the medicine, the boots were gone. My girlfriend seems to have not used the medicine at all. How plausible is it that my girlfriend was cheating on me and pretended to be sick to avoid getting caught?
That sounds like a very unsettling situation, and it's completely understandable why you are questioning what happened.

Based on the details you've provided, it is plausible that your girlfriend may have been cheating and used the illness as a cover to get you out of the house and give the other person time to leave.

Here's a breakdown of how the details align with that scenario:

>Evidence and Plausibility
The Boots: The presence of unfamiliar, large boots strongly suggests another person was in the room. The fact that they were gone upon your return indicates someone left in the interim.

Plausibility Link: An affair partner would need to leave quickly once the coast was clear.

The Claim of Illness: Asking you to immediately leave the house for medicine creates a clear window of time for someone to exit without you seeing them.

Plausibility Link: A fake illness is a common tactic to ask a partner to leave or avoid intimacy/close proximity.

The Unused Medicine: If the illness was real, one would expect the person to take the medicine you brought back. Not using it suggests the need for the medicine was merely a ruse.

Plausibility Link: This reinforces the idea that the "sickness" was a pretense.

Blocking Entry: Preventing you from entering the room, even for a moment, would be necessary to hide the presence of another person or evidence of their visit.

>>34005334 (OP)
>Despite being an extremely strong hunch, part of me doesn't want to end things on a hunch, like I feel I'm being unfair if I don't have solid evidence. How can I justify ending the relationship to myself without witnessing the cheating?
That is a very common feeling to have—that need for **"proof"** to justify such a major decision. It is the part of you that wants to be fair and rational.

However, a romantic relationship is not a legal trial where you need to meet a *burden of proof*. You are not deciding guilt; you are deciding what is healthy and sustainable for **your life**.

Here is how you can justify ending the relationship to yourself without "witnessing" the cheating:
1. The Real Reason is Broken Trust

The core issue is not the *cheating* itself, but the **complete breakdown of trust** caused by the circumstances.

* **Trust is the Foundation:** A long-term, committed relationship is built on a foundation of mutual trust and honesty. You need to feel safe and secure with your partner.
* **The Chain of Events:** The sequence of the fake illness, blocking your entry, unfamiliar boots, boots vanishing, and unused medicine creates an overwhelming pattern of deception and secrecy.
* **The Unavoidable Conclusion:** When your partner's behavior leads to a strong, logical conclusion that they have been fundamentally dishonest and secretive—regardless of what they were *actually* doing—the trust is shattered.
* **Self-Justification:** You are not ending the relationship *because you think she cheated*, you are ending it *because you cannot trust her* following her deliberately deceptive and secretive behavior. A relationship without trust is simply a source of anxiety, not happiness.

2. Prioritizing Your Well-being and Intuition

Your feelings and intuition are valid reasons to end a relationship.

* **You Deserve Peace:** You have experienced a situation that has filled you with extreme suspicion and emotional distress. Staying in the relationship means continuing to live with that suspicion, constantly second-guessing every interaction and event. You are choosing peace over constant doubt.
* **Gaslighting Prevention:** You are choosing to avoid a situation where she could try to *gaslight* you—making you question your own memory and sanity ("You must have forgotten taking the boots in yourself," "It was an old pair you never noticed," etc.). By ending it now, you protect your reality.
* **Intuition is Information:** People who know their partners best are often the first to recognize when something is fundamentally wrong. That "hunch" is your brain piecing together incongruent details that don't fit the expected narrative of an honest relationship. **You do not need to overrule your gut feeling.**

3. Setting a Boundary: Zero Tolerance for Deception

A breakup is also a powerful way to define your non-negotiable standards for future relationships.

**Defining Your Standard:** You have every right to require honesty, transparency, and loyalty from a partner. The elaborate series of lies your girlfriend told (or implied) to cover the situation shows a profound lack of respect for you and your relationship.
**This is About Her Actions, Not Your Accusations:** You do not need to call her a "cheater" to end things. You can simply state that the recent events have completely broken your faith in her honesty and you cannot continue in a relationship where you fundamentally do not trust your partner.
*You are responsible for your decision, not for her reaction to it.*

Final Thought

You don't need a picture or a confession. The boots, the fake sickness, the locked door, and the unused medicine, when put together, form a narrative that is emotionally unacceptable to you. **The evidence that matters is the damage done to your ability to trust her.** That damage is real, and it is a sufficient, justifiable reason to walk away.

>>34005334
>now I'm worried she was naked with some other guy in the room and that's why she wanted me gone
She absolutely was cheating on you.
>I don't want to end things on a hunch
End things because it hurts too much to keep trusting her.
>or accuse her if she's somehow innocent
Don't accuse her. Just don't bring it up at all. It's advantageous for you to let her believe that her deception worked. Just end the relationship saying that you realized that you don't want to be in a relationship anymore. "It's not you, it's me", basically.
>dump her now
Yes.
>make her explain herself
No. Don't give her the opportunity to manipulate you.
>wait and see what she does next
No.
>act like nothing happened
Talk like nothing happened, act like you've lost interest (because you have lost interest, because you've lost trust in her).
If she brings up cheating., play dumb. ("what? do you think I'm cheating!? is that what this is about!?" "I don't why you'd think that, but I just don't want to be in a relationship anymore. It's my choice, and I'm ending our relationship.")
Tell her that she has to move out of your place, ideally day-of. Don't give her more than a few days. Where she goes is not your problem, she just can't stay with you.

>>34005334
She had rolled up her sleeves to inject herself and the boots belong to her drug dealer

Hate to break it to you but she probably is cheating. .

And then everybody clapped.

>>34005892
That's impossible, only moids cheat

>>34005359
This is terrible advice. Don't waste effort on whores.

>>34005334
because your image is the NPCjak and is so obvious i don't know if this is satire, but yeah she's cheating on you, you absolute retard
duh

You’d be idiotic to throw away the entire most important person your life on flimsy guesses and assumptions a

>>34008104
moids wont put in effort for a woman who isnt a whore

>>34005892
>>34010580
You will never be a woman.

>>34005345
this is what a 15 year old thinks a real story should look like

>>34005334
I'm sorry dude, but she is taking Chad's cock. Next time pick your women better.

>>34006100
Someone either got cheated on or didn't. Being creative about it isn't productive.

>>34005334