>Be me, 18 year old female>Kinda pretty I guess>Be a shut in, havent left room for months>Life is boring>Lives with parents, no job>Chronic mental illnesses>Cuts self >No lifeAll my high school friends are moving on. Im all alone, how do I meet new people? Is there a point in getting friends? What should I do with my life? I feel hopeless, so, I decided to take to the internet for the first time and ask for help..
IDK what advice to give you since I don't know your life. If you care for stuff like this and know your birth time, post a picture of your astrological chart.https://horoscopes.astro-seek.com/birth-chart-horoscope-onlineI will see if looking at it gives me any ideas of what to suggest.
Well, you should probably get out into the world a little bit at least. Locking yourself in a room will just make your mental health worse. Are you able to get into college? Can you work any jobs? Are there any hobby groups near you that you are interested in? Can you stand being in the sun? None of these in particular are qualifiers, but it helps to have some direction to motivate you to go outside and have a destination.What type of place do you live in OP?
>>34009131>All my high school friends are moving on.This is only going to get worse as you age. Take it from someone in their 30s. The best thing you can do now is "invest" in yourself. Right now, you're a dumb kid with no real skills. But in five years, you could have some basic skills that let you provide for yourself and others. Ten years from now, you could be an expert in something, or a reliable leader for yourself and a family. None of that happens without effort, and staying in your room all day is the best way to make sure you never grow at all. Sure, you can do online school and junk now, but if you already struggle with holding yourself accountable to self-improvement, it's even harder when you do stuff online-only.Think about jobs you think would be cool to have, then go find someone doing that and ask them how you can work towards it, or if you can just shadow them for an hour or two and get a feel for what it would be like to do that thing. Most people are more than happy to have a young kid take an interest in their work; I know I would be.Think about what type of family or lifestyle you want to live in the future. Do you want to get married? Have kids? If so, you should work on growing yourself to be someone who can provide for others and be reliable. Go get plugged in with a local church or volunteer organization and tell the older people there you want to be mentored. That's the type of thing they all want.
The more you stay in your room the smaller your comfort zone becomes and the sooner you stop it the betterGo outside just for the sake of going outsideGo to the store, buy things and don't use self checkoutOur comfort zone expands when we do things that are just barely uncomfortable and persist with them, don't make the mistake of diving in the deep waters, you're not supposed to be suffering, just sorta less than as comfortable as you like.Do not let your comfort zone shrink, expanding your comfort zone is much harder than letting it stagnate.Here's the thing about the first steps of self improvement of any kind, the actual actions you take day-to-day shouldn't be hard, in fact they should be the minimum possible that's a little more than your idle state.If those goals are as small as they can be without being so-trivially-easy-you-accomplish-them-without-noticing and they're quick to check off every day, you'll want to do them.This will get you to WANT to check them off and this will get you into this behavioral activation loop which, if you persist, becomes self-sustaining.The things you do to get out of that funk shouldn't be hard, persisting with it when results are not immediately obvious is the hard bit.Truth is you're very young, VERY YOUNG, you are SO not close to rock bottom it's not funny.Start by thinking about specific examples of things you'd like to do more of and then think of THE MINIMUM you can do every day that would count as "yeah I technically did that"For example, Maybe cleaning is something you don't do as much as you should, in that case your daily goal is to put something away.So if your table is cluttered with shit, you pick ONE item from there and put it away in a drawer, that's your dues paid for the day>but that's nothingno it isn't! it's something! and a, once you start you're more likely to continue and b, as you persist with it you'll get used to needing to do at least SOMETHING every day.t. been there
>>34009282I FORGOT THE MOST IMPORTANT PARTRECORD THAT SHITThat is, make a table (on your computer, on your phone or in an actual notebook) of days and the goals you set for yourself and tick each cell when you accomplish that thing.It's THE most important part for three reasons1. seeing this empty box just waiting to be ticked over something you can just knock out real quick will make you want to do it2. checking boxes feels good and gives you this positive feedback of "I actually did it"3. It gives you an objective view of how you've been doing and how you've been improvingDON'T TRUST YOUR GUT ON IMPROVEMENT OR LACK THEREOF, The human brain is fucking ASS at diagnosing itself.You want a table where you can see you went from a spotty record to more-often-than-not accomplishing your task to accomplishing it so frequently it might be time to bring the goal up.As I said, we don't notice the improvement, in the best case scenario we'll just feel like nothing's happening for months and years until one day you look around and it'll hit you out of nowhere that "oh shit I'm better".But that's demoralizing, and this system gives you an objective way to see you're actually trending up.And one last thing, don't feel bad about days where you miss goals or even periods of time where you do poorly with them, that's just fine and even the most well-adjusted of us have them.The actual day-to-day score doesn't matter, what matters is the trend, if overall you've got an upward trajectory, you're going in the right direction.
>>34009131lmao all the moids falling for this bait is too funny
i can save you >>34009177based
>>34009177love lifethe hanged man
>>3400930880% of the threads posted here are bait threads, who cares. From my perspective, nothing has changed. I like helping people.
>>34009282I like this advice a lot. I'm in a middle of butt-crap nowhere town, the nearest store is an hour away, so all the replies havent been very helpful asking me to go out and talk to people and interact with the world,, you're words are very helpful. i've thought of trying to make a list of things to complete but never thought it would do anything long term- I guess ive been too caught up in self-pity that i decided to give up before my life even started,, thanks for the reply, i know half the threads on here are trolls so it was nice seeing genuine people try and help!
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