Id view her as a bit sheltered. Guiding your adult kid and helping them with any decisions they may be concerned about isn't wrong, but that level of supervision is enough to raise some flags about how overbearing her parents are. It's not an automatic red flag, but don't be surprised if her parents are controlling

>>34028409
Go max

>>34028409
Call her.

>>34028904
that's so obvious and so true it made me chuckle,
>>34028409
like the anon said just maximize speaking with her via phone call or something like that (maybe make her install an app that deletes messages automatically like snapchat but they may spot it)
and just talk about it with her in person !
ask her if she's creeped by her parents doing that... etc, make it a conversation

Use your voice.

>>34028409
How old are you guys? She's 100% messed up in the head from the helicopter parenting, so that's something you'll have to deal with in future.

Do more friend type stuff with her. Ask her to study together or go to x and y small local unthreatening event or something.

>>34028409
Be really careful. I had a girl like this I worked with stay overnight and she turned her phone off. The parents freaked out and called my work, my father, whoever else with my last name they could find online. Got the daughter fired from her job because of the freakout. Was super awkward I never saw her again. This woman was like 25 years old.

Why are her parents reading her texts in the first place if she's an adult?

>Parents paid for her phone and the plan
Get her a tracphone from walmart, target, or any other drugstore chain.

>Their House, Their Rules
Help her find a job and move out.

>She's disabled in some way
Your call if you're comfortable with the level of involvement from the parents, or you eventually becoming her caretaker.

Honestly all 3 scenarios already seem like a red flag, especially the 1st and 2nd "reasons." If she's got strict, authoritarian parents, then you are SOL. They don't get better over time. Getting them to accept you will always be an uphill battle. In their eyes, you'll never be good enough for her. They'll do everything in their power to sabotage the relationship. Ultimately it'll come down to her being forced to choose between her parents or you. If I were you, I'd move on.

Source: Been there, done that. On/off relationship with ex-gf for YEARS. She finally got the courage to get disowned by her parents in her late 20's after finding another guy willing to put up with the inane bullshit. I wish I never met her.

>>34029714
We're both in Uni. She's a freshman so maybe her parents got the software on her phone when she was a minor but haven't removed it yet?

you really want the pussy that bad, buy the bitch a tracphone...problem solved

>>34028409
Is she special needs? Is that why her parents check her phone?

Get her a new phone so her parents can't see it but check it like her parents do since she's used to that so she doesn't talk to Tyrone and Chad on it.

>>34028409
Bizarre as hell
Like anons said, call her instead. But don't be surprised if her parents ruin any chance of getting with her, it's not her fault, I feel bad for her but you don't need that crazy in your relationship. Plenty of other girls in first year of college too

>>34028409
My fiancee was in this situation with her parents. She was 19 and they'd check her shit constantly. She had no freedom; even when she got a job, they'd take money from her to pay for their car insurance cause they're wiggers who can't do anything for themselves and have to make their kids do their job. Since she lived a state over from me, we worked out a plan where I'd drive down there and pick her up after her shift so she could run away lol. We've been living together ever since

>>34028409
Play 4D chess. Buy her a used phone. Put her on your phone plan. Smash her old phone. Track her calls, texts to make sure she's being faithful.

>>34031462
Yeah but how many of them are pretty, nice, and think I'm hilarious?

>>34028409
be a "friend" in text messages.
just someone to casually hang out with.
maybe have a fun persona and something you can both have a inside-joke. as in: acting really like a gay. only for text messages.
i mean... you are into her.

and then when you meet: be a different person. be you. or be what feels like you to her.
you get the idea. just make sure to act the way she has to like you. acting properly is key. and when it comes to seeing her parents: be casual. be a normal friend. nothing too fancy.

i would do it this way. idk the whole situation.