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I'm 20 years old, I got a job offer in a state halfway across the country (US), I want to go but the only thing holding me back is my parents. I don't have a very stable relationship with them, in fact I wanted this job specifically to leave them behind, but when I told them that I got the job, they started trying to either guilt trip me into not going or tried to give me reasons why I'd basically fucking die if i live by myself because, to them, I'm like a baby that can't survive without their help. I need to tell them that im going to leave before I leave due to certain factors but I don't know how to go about that without having to deal with that whole conversation.

Also, as an aside, how do I deal with the fact that my youthful years are slowly coming to a close and the fact that I had a horrible childhood and basically had my youth raped from me (another reason why I want to leave, I can't deal with living in the same house as the people that ruined my childhood).
I watch twink porn just to catch a glimpse of what it would be like to be a youthful and virile male engaging in an act of communion with another healthy, beautiful young boy. Its that bad.
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>>34032565
Fag
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>>34032570
Thanks, I'm only half a fag.
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>>34032565
kys homo
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>I'm 20 years old, I got a job offer in a state halfway across the country (US

I've done this. Your parents concerns are valid.

Most important thing that you need is:
>Home/apartment
Have you found a decent place to live? Do you have enough money to cover the rent and utilities for half a year? In case things don't work out the way you expected.

>The Job
How is the work environment? Are the coworkers and bosses toxic? Is the company financially solvent? If not, as the new guy, you'll be the first one they'll let go.
Which is why it's important you have savings before you move.

>The weather
I moved from California to Chicago, we didn't have snow. I didn't have the clothes, the boots, or the mettle to deal with freezing winter and the summer humidity.

>Culture
Regional culture was also an issue for me.
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I have not found a place to live yet, but that is because the company that I am going to work for said they'll have one of their agents help me with relocation, they told me to not do anything until we have the first consultation call, which will be in two days.
Since I'm going to live in a relatively LCOL town, I have enough money in savings to hold me over for more than half the year if anything were to happen.

Just last year, the company I am going to work for hit record profits, so I'm not worried about layoffs.
Unfortunately I don't know anything about the bosses, coworkers, work culture, etc., but that's because the company is looking to build a whole new crew to work at the place I'm going to work, since the previous company that was working on this place had a crew of people that was so terrible at their job, they got kicked out.

The change in climate is definitely a concern for me, I'm not a stranger to the cold (also live in CA, but in a place in the mountains), but I'll also be moving to the midwest where it seems to be even colder and snowier.
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>>34032565
Leave. Nothing will ruin your life like toxic parents. It's worse than any drug or bad relationship.
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>>34032565
people used to have to stab people with a spear in the military while wearing a metal hat. I'm sure you'll be fine
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can you afford to live there? is the job stable? if you lose the job will you have to live with them again?

if you can get away and stay away then leave. it will likely be good for you. if you can't yet then hunker down and wait. Just don't be stupid

also stop watching porn that's not helping anything.
you're still young. if you wanna have casual sex go ahead, it's not hard. Just be careful



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