I have been lingering on some pretty minor grievances I have had with people. For some of them, I'm actively plotting revenge. Examples:>I recently quit a job because the new manager decided to cause a new issue with me everyday. This one annoys me because I got along fine at this place for two years until her. But I was done being told to cover up the injuries she caused.>the job before that had a staff that hated me and called me a faggot, incel, and some names I don't really understand. It got to a point where the girls requested I not be in the same room as them or speak even when it was work related.>I was banned from a support/discussion group Reddit literally years ago. The reason was for answering a question about my actual beliefs. >I had a scam call earlier this year where the guy pretended to be a cop. I hung up, but for several days afterwards I had no idea if it was real or fake.What's extra weird is that, I have had major, life altering things, done to me. And yet, I don't think about them. It's as if I view real issues to be inevitable and therefore not subject to assigning responsibility for. But somehow the above examples aren't or something?But the fact remains that, it's pointless to "correct" any of these perceived wrongs. How do I stop thinking so much about them?
>>340329551. Don't sweat the small stuff.2. Realize that it is all small stuff
>>34032955>I have had major, life altering things, done to me.Needs more information.
>>34034491Here I’m referencing to >getting falsely accused of falling asleep.This lead to being forced to sign a confession by my command and having all my progress in the station halted. However, I didn’t know what I was accused of at first, so when command asked “what do you think you did wrong.” I answered honestly. This meant that I was a liar and raised the charges. For the following year I was the complete fuck up and lair. There was nothing I could do to be treated as an equal. The others of my same rank just used me as their excuse for their problems. I eventually took the first assignment that would get me anywhere else. This didn’t go well either for different reasons, but I was far away from the accuser. Until the day she went to a school in the same station.>getting stabbed by hooker because I didn’t want a hooker. This one is more me being stupid and not quite life altering. Basically, I used to believe in seeing good in people. I stopped walking one night to listen to a very skinny woman tell me a long sob story. I gave her some spare change to help pay for gas. I had a very wrong idea of what she was asking, so she was pissed.Most other people who I would describe as evil, didn’t really do anything to me in particular. Like a woman I worked for until I found out she killed a puppy every month because she couldn’t take care of them.I cut off the less major people and events because of the character limit. I hope this answers your question.
>>34036155Right, I think have a theory. I think it’s because your bucket is full. So many things happen, and now stuff keeps happening, even though minor from your perspective, but because the bucket is already full, it creates strong reactions. Maybe you have to find ways to stop being around bad people, it’s too much murky water in the bucket already.
>>34032955series of bad things have happened to youmaybe it's time to ask yourself why
>>34037851The problem with common denominator theory or “if everyone’s asshole, you’re the asshole”; is that it’s unfalsifiable and makes a an assumption based on correlation. It doesn’t matter what I say next, I’m being defensive and therefore proving the point. I could point to the record of non assholes I’ve met, or the old flow charts I used to make to find a way to satisfy people. Or simply the chart I have showing how average anger changes in response to different strategies. And none of it will convince anyone that I have asked “why, what am I doing” enough times to know I ain’t getting a clear answer. >>34037850> because your bucket is fullThis was an interesting analogy that I honestly haven’t heard before. I’m not sure how to test it exactly, so I’ll have to look back into where and when each problem happened and hope something sticks out. > Maybe you have to find ways to stop being around bad peopleI’m not entirely sure how to reliably accomplish this. People tend to hide their intentions. If they also want something from you, avoiding them is easier said than done in my experience. Where would I start this selection process? How would I erase people who won’t leave my life or won’t allow me to leave?
The problem is your liver (think of it as a brita filter you can't ever replace) and you haven't been taking care of it and it'll affect your brain and outlook on life. Things that your liver hates:Fat (animal fat, oils, fried foods, doritos)Prescription medsAnything that boosts adrenaline (ADHD meds, coffee)
>>34039450>How would I erase people who won’t leave my life or won’t allow me to leave?It should be pretty straightforward. Especially since you are not in the position of stuck with your parents like some young people. I am not what you mean by who won’t leave my life or won’t allow me to leave, you don’t have to visit, you don’t have to pick up the phone. I’m not sure how you are stuck.As for avoiding in the future, you probably know much more warning signs than me by now, with all those things happening. If any sign comes up, don’t ignore them, and just don’t associate with that person.
>>34032955Those things happen, because you don't have any social life. All that happens to everyone, but most have a social life that helps them to recover.
