>>34036203
depends on what about sex do you fear? is it the sex itself, or the expectations or pressures surrounding it? fear of fucking it up? fear of being seen as ugly? fear of stds? what fear are we talking about?

Once you find out what that is, you simply understand fears are learned. No one fears something for no reason. Fear comes from past experience. And also fear doesnt have to be directly related to the subject you fear, it can be laterally indirectly related. Example: You fucked up trying to perform well in school and got shit for it so bad you shrunk into your own mind and felt like a huge fuck up. So sex comes knocking one day and you fear you will fuck it up etc.

You unlearn fear by learning how the fear came to be, understanding how it ticks and how fear operates. This knowledge renders the fear obsolete once found.

I was quite drunk my first time having sex.
I had some sexual experiences with other girls before but it was almost always that they were more sexually experienced/confident than I was so they had to take most of the initiatives and even the few times I got my dick sucked and whatever else I just could not cum out of nerves.

The girl I slept with didn't know that I was a virgin, equal parts sexual confidence I gained from the other girls but also the bit of liquid courage needed to calm my nerves and also an easy way to break the ice at a bar.

IF I had to do it all again differently in current year it would be more a netflix & chill type of situation

>>34036203
You're right to be afraid. They have teeth down there, you know

>>34036227
>the expectations or pressures surrounding it
NTA but this is for me.

>>34037662
Same I feel like a low testosterone male/a gay

>>34037669
I checked, I was borderline high.