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I’m 24 and have never asked a girl out or been on a date. I’ve literally only had my first kiss because some people started a spin the bottle game at a party I was at in college.

Is it over for me? Have I missed out on key social development and now I’m cursed to be an emotionally stunted chud forever?
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>>34036224
No, its not over anon. I will say 24 is a bit old to never have been on a date before, but its not too late to try.

If you have some sort of anxiety or fear over it, heres the fix: Just start talking to people, thats literally it. Anyone, not just cute girls, but old dudes, middle aged moms, random guys your age ect. Just start striking up conversations with them with no goal in mind other than starting conversations. Set a goal for like 10 a day.

Over time, this will remove any and all anxiety you have.
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>>34036224
I'm going to be a wizard this coming year. It'll just pass like every other milestone. I suppose that one's more of a millstone, really.

Ask girls out while you're not too far behind.
Don't be like me. I've given everyone else my age a 10+ year life experience head start, even after the romantic head start. Jesus wept.
Even the fat slightly dim weirdos in high school whose breath smelled a bit like poo now get to have their smiling faces pasted onto my Facebook feed, having married their improbably normal-looking wives years ago now.

I certainly wouldn't mind a game being the reason for my first kiss. I once played a game of spin the bottle at a friend's flat (I fancied her, but never made a move) where we had to come up with a new rule for the drinking game every time the bottle landed on us.
I came up with the rule "I win", completely missing the point of everything. Don't really understand why the game actually stopped. Possibly the one time where confidence (accidentally) made me look like I didn't really care.

I may be too far gone, but you're probably not. I'm okay with not having a girlfriend yet, but by now I'm way too old to not even have experience of a date.
I will probably look pathetic to any girl I might try to go out with, and that's aside from the fact I can't even get a job, which is another nice nail in my coffin.

But, of course, I can't let myself become jaded or unhappy with my lot, or it will definitely never happen - so I just scream inside and really try to not let it affect me outwardly in any way at all.
Everything is okay.
I'm just biding my time.
Deliberately biding my time.
For years and years.
Watching everyone else kiss their girlfriends.
It doesn't make me worth less as a person; It definitely means nothing that really quite nasty and otherwise unsavoury fellows have had girlfriends that love them and I haven't. Everything about this is just fine, and I will never admit to thinking otherwise to a soul.
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>>34036224
>Is it over for me?
At 24? No, but that window is closing fast. It only gets harder from here fren.
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>>34036435
Not him but when is it unironically just over?
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>>34036471
NTA but I spent a lot of time on here telling like 19-20 year olds to not buy hookers they're wasting their lives and chasing an addiction, but by 40 if you've never been on a single date yet you may as well start getting into hookers instead.
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>>34036224
i got my first girlfriend when i was 25 but i asked out like only one girl prior to that as i recall. then again i grew up in america and american girl generally are not worth dating or talking to, actually my first girlfriend i got overseas.
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>>34036237
Where do you meet people to start up random conversations? And how do you take a conversation like that in a romantic direction?
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>>34036481
>actually my first girlfriend i got overseas.

What country and how’d you meet?



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