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Are girls in general just more scared of committing to a relationship now?
I can't seem to keep a gf proper... All they want is something casual, conveni-dick, non-committal but sexual.

All my friends have GFs, but then again most of them have been together for 5+yrs.
I'm meeting women on apps AND in-person (meetups and events)... They just treat me as a repeat-hookup rather than someone who wants to date them.
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The answer is no. They only want a relationship with Mr Right. But they have the boomer take of having premarital sex unabashed then being entitled to find a good man after the fact. True love waits. You might be attractive enough to fuck but it's clear you don't possess the qualities in a man that will make a girl want to clean up her act.

Meanwhile that's the only energy I out out there. You have to be prepared to be single for years at a time. You cannot have both in your 20s.
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>>34040699
projection. moids are incapable of committing
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>>34040699
dating and repeat hookups are the same. moids only see women as dildos and literal punching bags
STOP pretending to have female desires
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>>34040699
You aint alone anon, but you know what they say.

Better to be alone than wishing you were.
It's also better to be whatever you are now than to become a terminally online subhuman like >>34042080
>>34042083

Just give it time, be your best self, and accept you're gonna get burned a few times before you find a flame that warms your soul constantly.
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>>34042117
i want nothing to do with moids
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>>34042131
Except for when you namefag rage bait to get attention from them. This is the inescapable female sex obsessed nature taking an exceptionally maladaptive form. A “healthy” person with your worldview (it’s against human nature but if it were to exist) would not think about men at all. I don’t like marvel movies but I don’t think about them and it doesn’t cause me any distress. You love men, you’re obsessed with us, and it’s very obvious how boy crazy you are.
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>>34042216
She just needs cock desu. I see her posting all the time on r9k and here. It's insane.
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>>34040699
the issue is women these days have the freedom to compartmentalize their sexual and emotional needs
if they want attention and validation, then there's an endless supply of simps and orbiters to provide them
and when they want sex, the average woman now has effectively unlimited access to sex with chad via dating apps (though chad obviously won't settle down with an average looking woman)
hyperattentive simps will give them more attention and validation than most boyfriends ever would, and the chads they find on dating apps are way more attractive than any guy that would actually commit to them. Getting a proper boyfriend would mean giving up this arrangement and committing to only have sex with a way less attractive and less attentive guy
Given the situation, it's not surprising at all that women don't want boyfriends
If I could have unlimited sex with hot goth girls and I also had an army of beckies that would call me sexy and do nice things for me and spend time with me 24/7 I probably wouldn't be interested in monogamous dating either
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>>34042293
It makes sense as an optimal strategy to maintain a dichotomy where you get all sexual needs filled by someone who is capable of adequate ruthlessness due to lack of emotional attachment which is an important factor of maintaining arousal. Meanwhile a platonic male friend who is emotionally attached and intimate but never sexually consumed guarantees tenderness and longing. It's just the Madonna whore complex for women
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>>34042648
>It's just the Madonna whore complex for women
exactly, you get it
it's funny that Madonna whore is usually associated with men, when the average woman had it 10X worse
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>>34040699
>Are girls in general just more scared of committing to a relationship now?
No. They're less scared of not committing.
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>>34042654
>>34042293
So how come all my friends have girls? Is it really just a "modern" issue?
Also I really don't get "having your emotional needs fulfilled by simps" like, why would you care what some simp you presumably hate/resent thinks?
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>>34040699
As a woman- as much as want a relationship- I do NOT trust myself to hold onto one because at some point I'm going to start self sabotaging and everything will fall apart and it'll be messy. I know damn well if I get into a relationship my lover will leave having some regrets.
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>>34043601
You probably have BPD, its okay because 90% of women has that these days. there are pills for it.
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>>34042216
>if you refuse to have sex, you must be sex obsessed
??? and as for all the moids on this board whining about how they cant get pussy???
>it’s against human nature
ah, of course. if it's counterintuitive, it must not be true. why do these stupid femoids think that they should question their instincts?
>would not think about men at all
this is delusion. moids hate woen, and you talk about us all the time
>I don’t like marvel movies but I don’t think about them and it doesn’t cause me any distress
marvel movies aren't parasites, and people DO yap about movies they hate.
>You love men
i probably cant say what i would do to a moid if it werent for the law.

>>34042274
women cannot be incel.
anyway, what happened to women getting damaged by sex? choose one.

>>34042293
moids never settle down.
im a virgin and i have no interest in interacting with moids (besides telling them why they are parasites, obv)
moids are incapable of monogamy. moids all have sex with other moids, and if possible, a moid will also fuck a bunch of women.

>>34042648
moids cannot be emotionally attached to women

>>34044622
>90% of women have BPD
i swear, denying reality is a crucial tenet of masculinity
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>>34045550
did your dad molest you or something? why do you hate men
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>>34044622
I can't get a proper diagnosis because I don't have health insurance but two people who know me extremely well who have it themselves have told me I probably have it
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>>34045550
Someone needs a nap
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>>34042293
>pic related says "i'm retarded"
>actually the first gem post on this board that i've ever seen
what did he mean by this
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>>34040699
>I can't seem to keep a gf proper
skill issue.
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men literally do the same thing lmao. why are you making this a gender thing, OP?
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>>34045934
Probably got touched by uncle. The bitches who hate this hard were more than likely diddled in their youth. This cunt reminds me of the efuckit clip of the one chick crying about her dad raping her at 6yrs old and that's the reason why she's a whore sucking dick on camera.
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>>34045934
nothing happened to me, moids simply admit that they just wanna make the world worse, and i believe them.
funnily enough, moids love to bitch about "false accusations", yet a moid accused me of "being raped in her own mind". i never claimed that i was abused in any way.
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>>34046669
i love you sufemacist
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>>34040699
>Are girls in general just more scared of committing to a relationship now?
somewhat- if you've been living under a rock, you'll learn from social media today (and they will tell you themselves) that feminism has wrecked women today. Many have an outright hatred of men or tradition in general.
>I can't seem to keep a gf proper... All they want is something casual, conveni-dick, non-committal but sexual.
but this is your real problem. Girls like sex too. But as a man, if you really want to keep a girl- you can't give everything away. You can't treat women too well, or too nicely. There is no "Prince Charming" type movie bullshit today. Women will tell you that they actually hate that. You need to instill pressure in the woman to perform- by not saying "yes" to everything she wants. Add some interesting drama. If she can just call your dick up, you'll just get played around. Learn to control yourself and make decisions to benefit you only.
>I'm meeting women on apps AND in-person (meetups and events)... They just treat me as a repeat-hookup rather than someone who wants to date them.
because you don't have personal boundaries. If you were true to yourself, you'll tell them to fuck off and that you're after a genuine relationship or marriage. But you wont.
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>>34046614
>why are you making this a gender thing, OP?
Because I'm a guy looking for a girlfriend and not a guy?? Are you retarded?
This is my experience, what fucks do I give whether or not other guys are looking?
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>>34046741
>be a moid
>admit that your entire gender unconditionally hates women and girls and just wants to make them suffer
>get triggered when a few women hate moids in turn


>You can't treat women too well, or too nicely
as if that's a concern.
>Add some interesting drama
moid moment.
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>>34046811
youll never be a woman
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>>34043589
Because around 50% of people can still maintain functioning relationships without strict rules. Kinda like bowling without rails.

Not to sound mean or anything but everyone I talk to that can't do relationships will make it obvious why within 5 minutes.
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>>34046857
>Not to sound mean or anything but everyone I talk to that can't do relationships will make it obvious why within 5 minutes.
oh that one hurt
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>>34040699
Yeah, they swallowed the hookup pill
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>>34043589
mf y'all hate women and still care what we think

>>34047055
the projection level is insane. to moids, relationships are just repeat hookups that arent even fun for the woman, and youre triggered that women arent the same and are opting out
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>>34040699
Nah, it just takes time to actually grow close to another person. You don't just shake hands and yell" relationship", thats simply bullshit.

You'd be better off examining why you are so keen on having everything "committed" so fast. Slapping a meaningless label on your relationship doesn't make it any less likely to get hurt or borken up with, you know.
Women enjoy chasing men, they see it as an achievement to get the man to commit. The man who does it already on his own poses not challenge at all and quickly becomes uninteresting, especially because it appears desperate and reeks of bein gnot desirable if a man rapidly wants to commit instead of havign to be pried off from other chicks.

Tl;dr: Disney movies aren't dating advice, they are pure fiction.

>>34043589
>Is it really just a "modern" issue?

Its not really an issue unless your entire experience of the world consists of doomscrolling outrage bait TikToks and "redpill" twitter accounts ran by indians.
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>>34040699
you're attractive, but you either have something obvious and glaringly wrong with you such that they view you as for recreational purposes only, or you're asking for their commitment and it's scaring them away.
>>34043589
>All my friends have GFs, but then again most of them have been together for 5+yrs.
>So how come all my friends have girls?
at a guess, they are in their first long term relationship that kept going.
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>>34042293
It's all so tiresome.



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