my gfs ex is coming to town and my gf asked me permission to get lunch with himi feel like no matter what i choose, i lose>dont let her golook like an insecure controlling assholeshe probably fights me that i dont trust her>let her goshe looks in his eyes and remembers all the times he thrusted his cock into herwwyd?
Go with her. Then thrust your dick in one of them.
Dump her for keeping contact w her ex.
>>34047654I'd break up with her. It's one thing to randomly run into an ex, its another to actually stay in contact. I dont give a fuck about her woman cope of "he helped me during my lowest, I cant erase him blah blah" it's disrespectful to your relationship. I remember my ex gf used to get pissed that another prior ex was friendly with me on instagram, and that was social media, she wasn't even in the same state. Definitely a red flag my man.
>>34047654>look like an insecure controlling assholeHave some self respect. The fact your mind went to how you’d come across by saying no to such a question speaks volumes about your self worth.
>>34047654You should definitely go with her. If she objects, you should dump her. Any reason she may have is not worth your respect and love for her. Matter of fact you should have been questioning her why is she talking with her ex not even about her wanting to meet him.Put yourself in her shoes, reason why to go meet the ex other than either get back something that belongs to you, or fucking their brains out.The best outcome out of this is your gf blocking him and staying by your side, else you will become a cuck.
>>34047654>>dont let her go>look like an insecure controlling assholeYou won't merely look like a controlling asshole in that scenario, you'll actually be one. In fact, you're being one right now. Only an insecure asshole would have a thought like this in his head: >she looks in his eyes and remembers all the times he thrusted his cock into herA lesson you need to learn very early on about relationships is that it's impossible to prevent someone from cheating on you. The best you can ever do is to make sure they don't *want* to cheat on you. If they do want to, they will, and you can't stop them. This goes both ways: if you wanted to cheat on your girlfriend (with a hooker, say) she couldn't stop you. No matter how carefully she watches you, eventually you'll find the time. Her only option is to trust that you won't do it, and try and make sure you don't want to. Same applies to you: either you can trust her, or you can't; and if you can't then no amount of banning her from seeing people or keeping her under surveillance will stop her. And, unfortunately, acting like a jealous, insecure, controlling asshole is a really good way to make a person *want* to cheat on you.So, honestly, your best bet is probably to be really casual about it. "Yeah, sure. Why would I have a problem with that? I know I can trust you." She will quite likely respond to you trusting her by wanting to be worthy of your trust; women do that.Now, if you ask me, can I definitively promise that she won't do this: >she looks in his eyes and remembers all the times he thrusted his cock into herthen no, I can't. But I can say with 100% certainly that if she does do that, your relationship with her is already fucked beyond all possibility of repair, and trying to ban her from going to lunch with the guy will not fix it. So you really don't have anything to lose.
>>34047854>reason why to go meet the ex other than either get back something that belongs to you, or fucking their brains out.That is a genuinely chilling insight into the workings of your mind, anon. People other than you have loads of other reasons.
>>34048126Not OP, but how do you get the mindset to think like this intuitively?Didn't even have a relationship, but I did a bunch of sneaky, cringy shit on an old crush to see if she was seeing anyone. I fear if I actually get in a relationship I'm gonna be doing the same type of shit out of paranoia.
>>34048261>Not OP, but how do you get the mindset to think like this intuitively?Hmm. Practice, I guess? I used to be more jealous than I now am, years ago. But after a while you realise that a relationship depends on trust. If you don't trust your partner not to cheat on you, the relationship is doomed. It doesn't actually matter whether your lack of trust is justified or not: if they do cheat on you, you're both fucked; but if they don't and you are nonetheless constantly consumed by jealousy and insecurity, you're both STILL fucked, because your jealousy and insecurity will destroy the relationship just as comprehensively as actual infidelity would.In the end, you realise that unless both people are willing to make a leap of faith, the relationship will never get off the ground, and unless you can say "Fine, I trust them" there's no point in even being in a relationship at all. Relationships are necessarily risky; but if you're not willing to take the risk, you'll never be in one. >Didn't even have a relationship, but I did a bunch of sneaky, cringy shit on an old crush to see if she was seeing anyone. I fear if I actually get in a relationship I'm gonna be doing the same type of shit out of paranoia.You may well. You're someone who can't be trusted, so you assume no one else can be either. Perhaps if you become a more trustworthy person yourself, you'll find it easier to trust other people?
>>34047830>>34048126>>34048133Retards like you are exactly why women get away with this shit. In what fucking world would it make sense to see an EX BOYFRIEND for a hangout?
>>34047702Fippitydipity
>>34048759>In what fucking world would it make sense to see an EX BOYFRIEND for a hangout?In the real world. I'm still on friendly terms with most of my ex-girlfriends; most emotionally mature people are.
>>34049601The more time two straight individuals of the opposite sex spend together the bigger the chance of one if not both parties to develop feelings for eachother.The time it takes varies from person to person, but it always happens. No exceptions.
>>34047654I agree with the other guy in this thread where he said that you can't control your gf from cheating on you (and vice versa if you wanted to cheat).With that being said, I think it's a cucked thing to be okay with your partner being friends with an ex. I did this because I was naive and she ended up making a move in front of me with my boyfriend. Just tell her your not comfortable and if she fights for her life to have him in her life then I would leave.
>look like an insecure controlling assholeIn the unlikely event where op has friends and met these people through friends, this line of thinking makes sense. Your opinions are then basically:>let her go>go with her The gf can't cheat on you without the justification that you're a controlling asshole and not suffer repercussions.
>>34049601I'm also on friendly terms with most of my exes, and guess what? I haven't seen them since we broke up. Stop being a cuck.
>>34047654Break up with her. Wait a week. Kill yourself.
>>34049639This is nearly pure fantasy.
>>34048126>The best you can ever do is to make sure they don't *want* to cheat on you.Even simpler solution : don't fall in love with an asshole.
>>34048759You're retarded for not understanding my message to op. I’m telling him he must have low to no self respect for himself by not telling her no immediately but rather he is worried how he’d come across to her. Wtf is your problem?
>>34050126Calm down you retarded faggot. I misunderstood your message
>>34050035Cope
>>34047654just fuck the absolute brains out of her the night before she sees him. Then do it again in the morning before she gets ready to go outalso be really nice to herlike >>34048126 said, the best you can do is make it so she doesn't even want to cheat, so make sure she's sexually and emotionally satisfied before she sees him
