I broke up with my girlfriend of a year a couple of months ago because I caught her messaging other men in a way I did not like. She says it wasn’t cheating, but I thought it was blatantly obvious. It made me uncomfortable and broke trust. But overall the breakup was pretty clean and mature. I talked no shit and did what you usually do post-breakup and hit the gym, hobbies, etc. But recently I’ve been noticing that things have changed. For some context, she became friends with a lot of mine during our time together. And when we broke up, she initially took a step back but still maintained those friendships. I wasn’t going to tell her not to, that’s shitty and immature. The worst part of it so far was being excluded from certain gatherings, such as bonfires at her house, that was fine. It got even more egregious when our mutual friends started viewing me as the asshole, saying that they’ve heard a lot of bad stuff about me. And now I’m almost never invited around by the guys I've known before her, almost as if she replaced my spot in my friend group. How do I resolve this? It’s not exactly confrontational and obvious, but it’s somewhat clear that something is happening.
Same thing happened to me. Crazy part is 10 years later shes not even part of that group anymore and ive drifted so far from the group that I dont know how to rekindle it as everyone's moved on with their lives, having kids, etc.
>>34054060considering the context of the situation, what you are describing sounds a lot like a smear campaign to isolate you and shift the blame, thats why you feel isolated. your friends viewing you as the asshole in this context is called flying monkeys and if they dont care what your part of the story is just delete ignore them and cut contact
>>34054060It’s kind of normal for your mutual friend groups to choose one person or the other in a relationship.Not sure there’s much you can do. You can try to stay friends, and if people confront you with lies or misconstrue things then tell your side of the story.
It's so weird to me seeing the "friend brings gf, they break up, gf stays in group instead of original friend" trope happen but I see it more often than not.I've only seen it once where it was justified to take the girl's side post breakup, and that was because our friend was a jackass to every one of us, and he couldnt put the H needle down. Any other time, the woman causes more drama down the road and the friend group cracks.Your friends are taking her side because they want to fuck her whether they admit it or not. If they are not standing up for you and you've known them for some time, then I would start to question how true of friends they really are.
>>34056087>Your friends are taking her side because they want to fuck her whether they admit it or not. If they are not standing up for you and you've known them for some time, then I would start to question how true of friends they really are.I am leaning towards this, as the whole messaging men behind your back in ways you don't like, combined with the smear campaign, seems like she weaseled her way into the group. Likely being treated well by someone or the group being into her. Not to mention, if they were real bros, they would come to you first. Sounds like you dodged two bullets.
>>34054060Cut off those people completely, they were never worth a nanosecond of your time.
>>34054060Girl has framed you in a bad light, while simultaneously picking up some orbiters along the way likely. It happens. If it happens though, and nobody even bothers to reach out to you - then those people probably were not proper friends all along, and you're best off without them really.
>>34054060I lost friends because they chose a bar over me. The owner of the bar lied to my face about overserving my mom and I went ballistic and got permabanned. It's not just that my friends didn't support me by boycotting the place, they were ALWAYS hanging out there and I was now excluded from chilling with them.Sorry this story is only tangentially related in that involves losing friends. I guess my point is that people don't really value the concept of loyalty. There's nothing for you to do in my opinion. People have shown their true colors and they aren't worth maintaining friendships with. Fuck them. I've cleared the air with some people involved in my story but we are absolutely not friends anymore.
>>34054060Tell your friends that your ex is a scank and dish out all the dirty laundry.
>>34054060https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kbkysPTnHcSocial media has primed an environment where this type of degeneracy is not only accepted, it thrives. Social media desensitizes and radicalizes even moderates into believing heinous and abhorrent behavior is acceptable under the correct context. Spend just 5 minutes on Twitter, Facebook, Reddit, you will find hordes of these deranged people. They exist among us. The FBI knows about them but never acts until it is far too late. Western society is on a one-way fast track to collapse as long as social media continues to destroy minds and decay the culture.
She is clearly using gossip rumours and slander to exclude you and gain social power in the group. Your "friends" wouldn't even entertain the idea if they gave a shit about you, and as previously stated, they just want the benefits that come with associating with her-- pussy, from her or her girls. "Friend groups" are not a thing by the way, retard. It's just a way to maintain mate choice selection in these very individualistic times, and if there is a single woman in a "friend group," it no longer becomes a group of friends. Men cannot be friends when they have pussy to compete for. Unfaithful and immature women will bring out the worst in everyone in a group. You can have male friend, and he can introduce you to another male friend, and maybe you guys start drinking with each other on the weekend or whatever, but if you EVER introduce a woman, and consider her a friend, you are creating the beginning of the end with your (formerly yours) group. Never forget this. Men and women cannot be friends because women cannot be a friend to anyone. No exceptions.
