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Keeping attraction in relation(...) 12/16/25(Tue)03:48:40 No.34055309

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Keeping attraction in relationships Anonymous 12/16/25(Tue)03:48:40 No.34055309

I'll get right into it:
>M31. On my third "long term" relationship.
>First one was 5+ years, 17-22. Virgin, peak intensity teenage love.
>The problem: Every single time I commit, the doubts start.
>I'm talking full-blown existential crisis over my own attraction, even when I'm "in love."
>Always looking at other girls. Crippling guilt/doubts about my current partner's attractiveness.
>Still bang my current GF, she's objectively hot, but the wandering eye won't quit.
>We're "open" (her idea). Kissing/FWB is on the table, but I'm terrified I'll just catch feelings and rinse and repeat same feelings
Will I ever just be satisfied, or am I fundamentally broken, /adv/, and has anyone else dealt with this?
I know it's not that uncommon, a friend said he feels similar and extremely guilty, and even cheated once. He is strictly monogamous though and tries to deny any kind of feelings for someone else, whereas my GF and her gen Z 'woke' friends are helping me see other view points. Her 27 year old friend kissed me recently and told me I was hot, and wants to go to a sex club with us, for example.
>tl;dr
will I always doubt my affection and love for my partner, after the initial honeymoon phase ends, and how do you sustain the feeling or do you just accept and adapt how it feels?