When it comes to making friends, there is one person you want to avoid making friends w/: The Insecure FriendAn insecure friend usually does not own up to their feelings of low self-esteem and instead of seeking help regarding those feelings they decide to take it out on others by projecting their insecurities. This could be in the form of criticizing others frequently (especially you), they want to put others down to their level to cope. An insecure friend constantly seeks external validation, gets passive-aggressive when that is not met. An insecure friend compares themselves to others. An insecure friend loves to boast about themselves because deep down they don't believe in intrinsic validation. An insecure friend will throw you under the bus in group interactions.Having an insecure friend is one of the most draining experiences, I am still recovering from the fact they were not my friends at all. Don't do that mistake, as soon as you notice signs, drop them.
>>34055538It's been three years since I had a similar experience, anon. I hope it gets better, time will tell.
>>34055540I believe it will, thank you anon. I just hope I transcend those people. It would be nice if they would of owned up & apologized to me, but that probably won't happen since they lack self-awareness and empathy. Honestly had no real friends growing up as a teenager, part of it is because I preferred solitude.
>>34055553Mine happened in a group, my friend created it long ago, I invited another friend we primarily spoke to only a few times. As time passed, we added in more and more people, and then people got into drama over people not being "deserving" of having been added into the group.Eventually, I'd leave the community/region, and I finally realized that I barely knew any of those people, because they were spreading rumors about me behind my back. I preferred solitude too, and it'd be best off for us to forget, but forgetting is always the hard part. Actions are forever, and a lot of those people rarely feel remorse.Good luck anon, praying we can move on, I found it the easiest when I started helping people in communities I'd been in previously. It gave me an opportunity to bond with them better, and it's helpful now. The first step will always be the hardest, also Jesus, this website doesn't let me upload files from my IP range for some reason
>>34055576Some of those people thrive on gossip, because they are attention seekers, they don't care what kind of attention it is. I remember one "friend" was always getting into shit, he bragged about beating up someone on a city bus. He also loved to throw temper tantrums/gamer rage when people were around , because that is attention seeking.
>>34055591fwd. exampleHe would punch himself repeatedly and hurl homophobic slurs at the game because he knew he would get attention from it.
Always with the scenarios.I wish the lord would take me now.
>>34055538yep>seeks validation>asks for input just to shoot it down>already convinced himself of something, just wants you to affirm it>wants the “right” answer instead of what you think>asks you for something but always frames it as a mutual benefit>backhanded compliments and overall condescending attitude>hates it when you help him and will try to sabotage it out of shame>tries to help and correct you constantly and in the most pedantic and arbitrary way possible
>>34055942what else did this "friend" do to you?
>>34055538OP hereAnother few ones to note>Copying off your fashion style or personalityIt seems flattering at first but it really reflects insecurity above all else.>Asking for your input Sometimes they will ask for your opinion on things, even when it is not necessary. It is because they don't have enough confidence to reassure themselves.>Backhanded complimentsThis just reflects a condescending attitude.>Peer pressureSometimes they will pressure you into doing things like drugs or fighting.
>>34055538just came out of a "friendship" with a girl like that. we met online, played videogames and found out we shared a bunch of very niche interests, so of course I expressed my feelings, but she just went cold... I thought she was totally in the right of doing that so we split ways. some months later we started talking again much more but then she began with these "shit tests" that women do, y'know.My work requires me to be very patient with people so ragebaiting doesn't really work on me. so she tried doing that, and negging too. I've always been open about my difficulty of making friends around her so of course she would eventually make fun of that too: the needle that broke the camel's back was when she asked me if I was jealous of her for making a new friend so fast (she had recently met a girl on instagram) to which I wholeheartedly replied with "hey that's cool that you got a new friend". she said that the girl was funnier than me, and that I didn't need to be jealous. In a state of disbelief I just ghosted her, and a week later here I am. she sent some more messages asking if I stopped liking her or whatever but I just left those on read. honestly I feel relieved and I honestly would never wish this experience on any person I care about.
>>34056003> It is because they don't have enough confidence to reassure themselves.Some people are like that but are not actually jerks or trying to put you down. If someone is being honest and humble about asking for help, I’m happy to help them.
I was in a friend group that made a chat in disc called "no __anon__ zone" and I felt really ostracized from the group as a whole once I brought it up and told them how it felt and they just laughed it off as a joke.. >Haven't heard or seen them in a year and a half
