>love ldr gf alot but not enough to want to marry her right now and getting married is the only way we will ever be together for real>also I'm poor and cant afford to bring her here and take care of her until she's acclimated to my countryI feel like she's living in fantasy land regarding this, she just thinks that love will conquer all, all of our problems will go away and we can be together. Meanwhile I feel like a fraud for hiding my feeling
>>34056883It's not as hard or as expensive as you think. I know this because I turned an LDR into marriage & I'm a broke-ass like you, too. All it requires is setting aside whatever money you do get, even if it's minimum wage or whatever else each month. By 6 - 12 months you will have the money to cover the VISA costs entirely. During this time of saving, you just need to visit her country or she visits yours and you have a cheap inexpensive marriage ceremony, we're talking dirt cheap. This then lets her apply for the spousal VISA and you're good to go.
>don't love her enough to get marriedIs this a permanent judgement or do you just need to be together longer?If you can never see yourself marrying her, the relationship is doomed even if you were neighbors. End it so you can both move on.If it's just time, keep dating. This also gives you both a chance to save money. There are also alternatives, like she could apply for school or work in your country or vice versa.My references: LDR with my bf and I'm in your shoes (including being the hesitant to marry one) but time has made me realize he is The One without a doubt.
>>34057343How much time
>>34057347I became 100% sure about him after a year apart, but we did meet in person for our first 3 months of dating. Meeting at least once in person is important, but surviving distance also creates an incredibly strong bond.
>>34057516I don't think I'll ever be 100%
>>34058115Jump in da pool nigga
>>34056883Tell the truth and get resolution quickly, or like like a bitch and let it die slowly. Your choice.
>>34060092I tried to tell her all this stuff. I even tried to break up but she refuses to. She's clingy, but image also really loves me. I love her but I have some mental conditions that make relationships really hard to deal with and I am more stable when I'm just alone
>>34061206>Long distance relationship>She "refuses" to breakupIt's called blocking her and doing it anyway anon. Get a backbone
