I have been friends with this woman for a long time. Growing up with her, I had the biggest crush on her, but was never forward with it since she knew my family. I didn’t want to complicate things unless I was certain it could work. We go to colleges that are nearby, stay in touch, and during that time she comes out as lesbian. It was kind of a relief because I no longer felt pressure to perform in front of her, and instead treated her like a bro. Talked about women, sports, lifting, etc. A couple of months ago, she came over to bar hop with me. This is a usual thing that happens every other month or so. We get shitfaced drunk at the bars with my friends and head back home for the night. She was sleeping on the couch in my room, but offered to share the bed with me, it was big enough to give each other space and I was trying to be considerate. Nothing happened that night, but when I woke up she was curled up onto me and things got steadily intimate as we spent the morning lounging around. We did the deed, and things went on as usual. No awkward “what was that” or anything, just kind of ignored it. She stayed at my place another night, but this time she slept on the couch, and then went on her way the next day. We’ve still kept in touch, and nothing of note has changed. But it left me severely confused. I feel like there would be more dialogue on what happened if there was anything to it. Is this something I should just let be?
>>34057390You get to choose. You don't have to talk about it, but if you want to talk about it, you have to start that conversation
i let my best friend i met in the psych ward finger me, and she ended up blocking me the next day. its been almost a month since we have talked, i really miss her. ive thought about making a new account to reach out and ask why, but its probably a bad idea.
>>34057799Yeah I would advise not doing that. That might just make things worse.
>>34057823she was my only friend :(
>>34057882You can make new friends
>>34057390I think that if you do talk to her about it that you should initiate the conversation in person instead of over the phone or via text.
>>34057390In the absence of a man who would take responsibility for ensuring correct communication?
>>34057390>Is this something I should just let be?If you want to talk about it, then talk about it. It's perfectly reasonable to want to address a possible change in the way the two of you relate to each other.
