>>34057981
how can a late 30s guy returning to school to finish his degree make friends with pretty+nice college girls? i try to talk to them in the cafeteria or class and they just give one word answers and keep their vision on me like a vicious killer gorilla got loose

yeah cuz you prolly look pretty old, butt i think one way for women to trust you more is by joining clubs as they know you both share similar interests, you will seem less "strange" . Also nglll if your not good looking you just need to join a girl/boy friend group though guy friends instead, thats also a safe bet

>>34057981
How can I forget my ex?
very typical quetion, but I unironically feel like I might have some mental issues. We were together for 3 years. We broke up, I don't really want to go into detail, it was because of an argument. I can't get her out of my head. From the very beginning of our relationship, I felt that she was the only woman I could ever be with, and that feeling lasted for three years. Now, seven months after our breakup, I still feel the same way. I literally can't find any other girl attractive, either personally or in both cases. I've even rejected girls because of this, because they weren't bad people, but I wasn't attracted to them physically, and they weren't on the same wavelength as me mentally. I feel like I'm going to be completely alone, chained to her forever. I feel like I will never find another girl like her.

Suicide is not an option right now. What should I do?

aw that sucks, honestly when your in a relationship for that long its going to inevitably hurt for a very very long time dont believe the people that are like yeah its normal to move on in a month NAH. Honestly the only strat thats kinda unethical i have is villanize her as MUCH as possible in your mind. If you think of her BOOM think of some really ugly shit she pulled or a time she really hurt you. you have to gaslight yourself :/ also i mean its a bit of a waiting game ngl, you have to distract yourself in the meantime though, like tv or something that can consume your mind for a while. also get a therapist man, THAT will help, heres a good a accesible one: https://www.7cups.com/

>>34057981
I am 25 going to 26 living in poverty. I am struggling right now and the job I am about to get will give me 1k to 2k of euros. How can I get into a loving relationship in my late 20 and 30 despite having a harsh life and financially struggling?

I also have clinical depression if that matter

>>34058057
she didn't really do anything like that. At the beginning of our relationship, there was a dilemma when I was 80% sure I was going to leave her, but she convinced me not to. That was about four months in the relationship. She wrote letters, sent packages with things I liked, and she did it without me asking, just randomly. She even prepared better for my parents' birthdays than I did... I can't literally call her evil, she didn't do anything that would make me think that.
It hurts that she has a boyfriend now. I was herlongest relationship, she had other boyfriends who lasted a few days or months, but she never even got to meet 4/5 of them. She's has one since August, but she treats him totally differently. There's no joint profile picture like we had, no shared letters in the bio, nothing. I can see that she has a boyfriend, but I feel like he's a bit of a boyfriend-lite, because after about 1-2 months with me, she did "more" than she did with him in the same amount of time.
I have no problem with dating, or with women in general, but I really don't see anyone, either on dating apps or in real life, who could literally compete with her.

I dont want therapist, it would not help.

>>34058067
find a poor women man its probably the easiest way, their standard match yours and they wont judge you as much. also theres this myth of women being very expensive, it is true for some but if you put in an effort even with cheap things like handwritten cards and such they LOVE IT trust. also if you have depression you really should focus on healing and caring for yourself before also caring for another person, its alot for someone to carry. my answer was kinda lame but im not like super sure on this one sry gang

>>34058067
>1k to 2k of euros
>poverty
?

>>34058093
honestlyy it seems like you are creating this fantasy of her where eventually she will come back or that she will never like anyone a deeply as she liked you... you also seem to dedicate a lot of your personal time observing her, that cant help either. could i ask why you guys broke up?

>>34058111
huh?

>>34058117

If she came back, I wouldn't accept her. It sounds strange, but it's more about my ego. If someone brought that girl to me, I wouldn't feel like being with her, and I would feel like a punching bag in the relationship rather than a partner. This will definitely not happen. (Unless she brings her boyfriend severed head, lol.)

I think she liked me better. She didn't have a good relationship with her parents, her mother was the worst, her father was a little better, but she felt a thousand times better with my parents than with her own. The argument was very briefly about his parents being police officers, and to put it mildly, I can't stand police officers, so I told her that they don't do their job well and that her parents aint to most respected in our country for reasons. (Obviously, I said this nervously and rudely, unfortunately.)
She felt very disrespected, and after 3-4 days of thinking, she let me go, but not nastily, she said that she will "always love me, and she could not delete anymore in her heart" but yet she couldn't do it that way. Her sister definitely played a role in her decision, as we later found out from her letter, and she told a girl she thought I didn't know that she still loved me. This was weeks after the break up.

>>34058105
>find a poor women man its probably the easiest way
Where do I find a woman in the same condition as me? Won't she leave me for someone better financially?

>>34058197
look, people in social classes tend to stick together. this idea of super rich men picking up poor girls off the street is pretty rare, i think you have a good chance. also if your that worried, find a woman who doesnt care about all that

>>34057981
Do you think it will be easy for me to find a woman whose wants are compatible with my desires? I want a malleable, innocent young woman who I can lovingly control so that I can be the best boyfriend on the planet. I want to engineer a docile woman’s life to where she is maximally satisfied and I want her to know it’s me who’s did it. Basically I want to dominate a woman’s existence in a loving way and of course also get off by controlling her, even controlling her mind.

>>34058192
huh ok, honestly one big thing is that if you want to get over her put in the work
- block her ass on everything and DONT try updating yourself on her life
- remember that there are people you have not even met that are capable of loving you so much more than her even if they are friends
- you wouldn't even take her back, why worry about her, she wont be in your future
- idk what else you just kinda have to suffer, maybe try a new relationship? casually, but it might distract you .also i tend to see the more busy you are or the more new problems you have you will tend to push back or forget the old issues (ex) so idk fuck up your life lol (dont actually take that advice)

>>34058247
LOL your actually crazy. im sorry but that behaviour is absolutely evil, it wont be easy to fins someone like that because women aren't like blank sex dolls? you could try to "fix" like a traumatized girl she might grow dependent on you but its super fucked up. i suggest you get some therapy and maybe find control in your life in other ways, because toying with a human being is very serious! best option: use like an AI girlfriend for these needs or there are clubs for sadists if you need a way to channell this. speaking of which if its consensual, there are def kinky women that are into that, so look for them

>>34058240
>look, people in social classes tend to stick together
I unfortunately don't see people like me around

>this idea of super rich men picking up poor girls off the street is pretty rare
Don't need to be rich, just lower middle class would give here more comfort than I could provide. It's hard to compete.

>find a woman who doesnt care about all that
Where? How?

>>34058268
yea, the more i have to work the less I actually I could care about her. You re right. The problem that most of the time, i dont even find 3/5 of the women I see everywhere attractive at all. So thats it, its hard to get into a relationship when I would rather kill myself next to these women than talk with them. I said to her to block me everywhere, which she actually did, but I eventually find out that she unblocked me on Facebook Messenger. I dont know why..

>>34057981
How do I be less boring?

>>34058335
JUST BLOCK HER ON MESSENGER AND DONT CHECK BROTHA digging your own grave... good luck though

>>34058293

>you could try to "fix" like a traumatized girl she might grow dependent on you

That sounds like exactly what I want! Thank you! I love the idea of taking a traumatized girl and making her life a wonderful dream of ignorant bliss where all her adult responsibilities are whisked away by me so she can be free and innocent like a child again (I’m into infantilization.)

> toying with a human being is very serious

I would never toy with the girl I love

> use like an AI girlfriend for these needs or there are clubs for sadists

Absolutely NOT. I want a real girl with real feelings to be mine completely and depend on me ONLY. Why does a girl need anyone else than the one she loves? What kind of whore doesn’t rely on her man alone? I should be her god and she should be my pet because only I would love her the way I would. After all the manipulation would be out of love. There’s no better feeling than going against a girl’s misaligned wishes for her own good. To be the man who saves her from herself and thus secures an eternal place in her heart as her savior and master.