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>be me
>havent had friends in a decade
>dont go out of my way trying to make any either
>make a friend at work
>have a lot in common
>try to distance myself once he suggests doing something together
WHY do i have this need to sabotage things for myself
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>>34060449
I'm exactly the same, it feels like I could have wrote this. I wont speak to your reasons for being this way, for me it's a major trust issue stemming from what feels like an entire lifetime of being otherly from everybody else. Parents that really didn't teach me anything or care for me beyond the necessities that I needed to survive. Largely only ever making fake friends, people who really only ever tolerated me and made it known how annoying they found me to be. Same with girlfriends.

There's a reason a person would instinctively push others away or pull away, or at least that's what I've read in the course of researching for myself.
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>>34060507
oh wow, yeah sounds like we've lived very similar lives for sure
>for me it's a major trust issue stemming from what feels like an entire lifetime of being otherly from everybody else
felt like this all my life, even around family
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>>34060449
you sound like a little bitch to me. people like you sabotage their own selves and then go out blaming other people and the world as if it's not your own fault
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>>34060664
did you miss the last sentence where i clearly blame myself for my situation, or are you just looking to show off how retarded you are?
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>>34060664
Hey. Why do you have to be mean? Why do you have to be an asshole? People like you are the reason people struggle to open up about their problems to other people and instead bottle them up until they one day can't take it anymore.
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>>34060668
I've had this sort of thing happen to me before and I swear to fucking god bro a lot of people just read like half of what you wrote (or even less, sometimes only like the first 3 words) without finishing the other half. Like people looking to "debunk" things I myself already debunked in my main post
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>>34060449
Your fear will prevent you from doing anything good in life. Stop being afraid.
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>>34060820
I'm bisexual but damn the idea of a strong woman who could just break all the bones in my body is so fucking hot to me. Sexier than anything else.
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>>34060998
I’m not bisexual but I agree with you 100 percent.
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>>34060449
>hang out with a person
>enjoy my time with them
>by myself later
>start reflecting or whatever
>the idea of having them in my life long term and interacting with them regularly seems overwhelming
>the idea of having someone know me makes me uncomfortable
>feels like its cutting into my life
>at the same time i do like them and want to have them in my life
how do i stop being like this, do i just bruteforce it
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>>34060449
>he suggests doing something together
That never happened tranny freak



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