I turned 32 a few days ago and I really lost hope in getting a gf and it makes me depressed. I regularly go volunteering and attend tabletop game nights, but I still can't figure out how to make connections there.How do I cope with this?
go traveling, meet some foreign girls who speak broken english and have no concept of American social awkwardness
>>34060875I'm too old and tired for this, it's pointless at this point.
>>34060970You're only 32, don't be an idiot
>>34060663You actually cant. I understand that you have some hope but that's just merely chemicals in your body pushing you to mate and they can't be controlled without mental discipline. To begin that discipline, you need to stop hoping that you will attract that mate. Next, you will use that discipline to bring your mindset to adhere to concerning itself with the present whilst disregarding the past and future. Through here you will lose your anxiety because you won't have a concept for the future whilst losing your regrets because you dont concern yourself with the past. Once you're there, you wouldn't even bother making this thread because you wouldn't be anxious that you will not find a girlfriend whilst having no regrets for not having one.
>>34060663I was like you and did the traveling things, well actually more like living overseas full time. Got a foreign girlfriend and while it was really nice for like a year, eventually my old ways returne. I am schizoid autist at hear and I'm not cut out for romantic relationships. I'm now trying to cope with being alone again, and it's extremely hard after having real companionship with some one I liked but I was getting so tired of trying to make her happy that I had to end it. So I'd so do this >>34060875and get it out of your system and at least have that experience once in your life
>>34060875>no concept of American social awkwardnessbrother that exists in every language.Zoomers don't know about Davido-kun>>34060663are you into anything else besides table top games? it could be something as seemingly benign as listening to music and watching movies.
>>34061166Thanks anon, I'll work on this. >>34061268>are you into anything else besides table top games?I like baking bread and pastries.
>>34060663>>34062195I'm 29, I feel you. Everyone's saying to not worry, to focus on yourself. I think that that's cope, but I also think... That unironically it's the best defense mechanism. It fucking sucks but basically, if you don't get it - you'll be happy. If you get it - you'll be even happier. That's the beauty of taking care of yourself, a win win situation. That being said dude I'm so tired of fapping at home, I wish my parents taught me how to socialize and be a human instead of having an absent father and a really fucked up bipolar mother.I have no idea how to get close to the girls. The only way is experimentation. The problem with experimentation is that it requires courage. And courage comes when you feel good. And you feel good when you take care of yourself. And many times, unfortunately, I feel not good for not having a gf. Which makes me want to recede back into obscurity. A truly sad hyperloop of sadness
>>3406066334 here. i was somewhat content with being alone forever, but half a year ago a new girl started at our company and i was instantly smitten, the second i saw her basically. she has a boyfriend on top of being a coworker (same team, would not fly) and i´m just next to her constantly, suffering. i´m currently experiencing mood swings, from ok to really devastated, and i absolutely do not know what to do. nearly everytime i come back from work into my apartment i get hit with a massive wave of dread.
>>34060663Have you talked to a single girl there, maybe said “hi”, chatted to her for a bit then said that you think she’s hot and ask if she’s interested?
>>34060970holy shit then fucking die alone and stop whining
>>34060875>meet some foreign girls who speak broken englishThis is a good way for love-starved autists to get fleeced by gold diggers hiding behind the "english no good" maskIf you're a passport bro, you're a pussy. Be a man and fight back against what the government and their Techno-phairsees have done
>>34062216> I wish my parents taught me how to socialize and be a human instead of having an absent father and a really fucked up bipolar motherI'm not saying you're wrong for it but you should have gotten out of the house more. My father was absolutely useless for help with dealing with women and my mother LOATHES other women, even her own daughters. And yet I have two younger brothers who are slayers because they didn't stay inside and be "good boys" and studied like me, even as young as 10 or 11 they went out all night, never did homework, were constantly playing with neighborhood kids and making friend groups that eventually got them in touch with their first girlfriendsIt might be too late for you, but if you ever do have kids for fucking fuck's sake please let them play outside. The worst thing you can do to a child is to keep them cooped up by themselves.
Is it possible for a mentally ill 34 year old virgin with no friends, no skills, and no hobbies to have a relationship?
>>34063063Probably not
You'll never find what you want by searching for it. Good things happen naturally, they'll naturally come to you
>>34063383So why it didnt happen to him?
>I'm unhappy by myself, therefore once I get a partner I'll be happy???
>>34060663An Hero. You might as well. It doesn't get better from here.
>>34063383i adopted this mindset at around 25. ten years later still no gf let alone sex lmao
>>34064337I believe so as well as a virgin in my 30s. Things just get worse as you get older. Soon enough I'll be 40 and in the same circumstances
>>34064371really scary to read this. surely you did something wrong right? stayed indoors? didn't go out? didn't take care of yourself?>>34063062I can always kill myself, thanks
>>34066293my biggest mistake is being introverted and sort of quiet and lazy and at times get depressed. i've gone out, partied, had friends, worked like a normie, people have called me attractive even several times, women seem to find me interesting until they get to know me better and find out how boring i am. i also never really tried to get a gf by getting on apps or hitting on randoms at bars, and like most things in life i know getting a relationship is a numbers game, and i don't try to get those numbers up.
>>34063383Biggest load of bullshit I've ever heard. Wish I didn't listen to the doctor when she said this to me at 19
