How do I stop fantasizing that I could have made the relationship "work" if I just had forgiven her cheating attempt?"it is not what it looks like", "he was just lonely" and other most stereotypical excuses later, she was very sorry for what she did, she didn't even like it, she didn't really consent etc., she said she is happy to give me time to think it through, but I felt pressured by my friends to immediately end the relationship.To be honest, she even gaslighted me successfully at first to forgive her and to pretend like nothing happened but my friends basically called me a massive fucking idiot and told me if I have any ounce of self respect I need to call it quits immediatelly.... which I did.Now I feel like the decision was not mine, like it was rushed, like I could have made it work, pretend it didn't happen....Because now, 3 months later, I am still lonely and everything I do reminds me of her and even looking at my friends with their partners happy I feel like I could be still having all that joy if I just forgave her.Now after wasting about 1 year I am back at square one like this relationship didn't exist. We could have been watching entirety of King of the Hill just like we planned to right before christmas....
>>34062364you never truly loved her anonif she looked like a severe burn victim, you wouldn't have ever showed her the time of daythe love you shared can be found again with someone else
how can u expect to build a beautiful relationship on a foundation that involves cheating
She would hurt you even more in the future, so your pain now is to prevent greater pain in the futureThough do tell us how did the cheating attempt looked like
>>34062364You have good friends bro. You need to get out and find another girl. Then you'll forget all about little miss cheater.
>>34062531>come to her place unannounced after work (I always let her know via text when coming over to her after work, this time I was stressed at work and completely forgot)>she keeps the door unlocked when expecting me and by habit I just come through>some fucking white girl music playing on youtube on tv so I imagine she didn't hear me come in>see her naked + some guy I never seen before in my life on the sofa groping each other>I lose my shit as soon as she starts moaning as he gropes her breast>"this isn't what it looks like">blackhole of memories, don't remember much of the encounter, just the guy saying "are you guys not in an open relationship?"So yeah, I got literally cucked.Ironic since I used to make fun of cucks all the time, and here I am, willing to accept that I have been cucked just to stay with her.It has taken the strongest of wills for me to go strictly no-contact for those 3 months now but I keep saying it is for the best.>>34062517idk.... but whatever we would have would definetally be better than being so fucking lonely right now>>34062493I loved her for the hobbies we shared, our common interests in movies ant TV shows and our identically matching humour. All this combined with being able to have sex whenever we feel like it. I would have loved her even if she was a burn victim.>>34062547Yes, I have been out dating again, but even when I am with someone else I still think of my ex.
>>34062665>are you guys not in an open relationship?Brother, she was feeding you bullshit. She was actively whoring around and lying to guys that you were a willing cuck. She probably had several niggas on the side. Get yourself checked for VD. To top it all off, while she was fucking other guys with the lie that you 2 were in an open relationship, she never conveyed such a thing to you because she didn't want you to get any side pussy. She told the lie to them to get them to be okay with fucking her while selfishly stopping you from seeking other pleasures and making you into a fucking JOKE. She made a fool of you. She utterly and intentionally made you into a fucking punchline. She took all of your masculinity and humiliating you probably helped get her off. Who knows how long this slut was doing this for. How many times did she get random dudes to nut in her and then make you go down on her an hour later? You have almost certainly ate several other men's cum unwittingly. This bitch is demonic and evil. Seriously, get screened for STDs.
