im F20 and recently broke up w my bf. during the time i was w him i lost all my friends and now i feel rll alone. im currently working but im always working alone so i cant make friends there, i dont have money to go to like bars and stuff plus im rll shy. i dont have pc that i could make friends playing games. i go to prep school but everyone there is like 16 - 17 so i dont rll have anything to talk to them about and i just feel so so so alone and idk what to do
be patient and take some time to get to know yourself, life stages change quick at your age, new job and new friends could be right around the corner
>>34063076I can sympathize with feeling alone. I found that feeling to be complex and there's more to it then how you feel in the current moment. Your emotions sound turbulent. Couple thingsTake time to process and consider before reacting. An action from another doesn't mean you need to reciprocate or answer. Don't feel obligated to respond. Do what is best for you, from your heart, your truth. An action doesn't need to be answered with an action. When work someone who is honest asking questions is the best way to understand perspective. I know that I am not always right and that is where growth happens. I'm thankful for the opportunity when I'm confronted by someone I care about in these things. Be safe. Don't take a risk or do something that is against yourself to get someone to like you. A relationship is not transactional. A relationship is literally just spending time with someone you care about. Never feel like you have to give something of yourself to someone just to get them to spend time with you or like you in some way. One step forward at a time. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and shut down because of the unknown or when you see all the pieces around you and just can't bring yourself to put them together at the moment. I found its best to play the bullet and grab the nearest piece and work on that, even if it's not necessarily the next piece that had to happen. As long as you're making a little good progress you will get there. Be honest. I know that's very important to me is that others are honest about who they are and do not mask or withhold communication for timing. There's no such things answering too fast or saying too much. There's only spending time with each other and enjoying that time with each other. If you want to talk, talk. If you want to say something, say it. If the other person cares about you then they will understand with anything and everything you say.
>>34063076glfinding friends rn feels impossible. or it's just hard. or it's impossible. IDK. im your age and been without friends since 2022 because of a fall out. i haven't managed to find any friends online, nor offline. at work there's no one that has the same interests than me. and it IS impossible to join any existing friend group or public server cause it's always the same 4 people talking...invest in tulpas or something. make mind friends to talk and roleplay with. that's what saved me from killing myself!
Are you a mentally deranged woman who will lock me in her basement? Asking for a friend
>>34063076you are never truly alone as long as you have God's grace within you.
