I realised a while ago that friend-groups equal happenings. Trips, parties, clubs, the usual. No friend-group = no happeningMy whole high-school time I've been stuck in trios, that brought me absolutely nowhere. If they can, they hang around with other people and do cool stuff with them. And I might also get along with the other people, but there's always a distance and I never get elevated to "group-member" status. I mean sure, I've got other friends too, but they're are singular and the happenings aren't as crazy with them as with a group.So how do I join a friend-group?
join a club chapter of your interest at a local university or college, you don’t have to be enrolled or a kid
Depends. Do you have friends right now? If not. Join those meetup thingies online.
>>34063911like I said, I do have friends, but I always meet-up with them one-on-one and I can always hear about the tales from their groups, it's kinda like this. The last time I was in a friend group was when I was 12-13
>>34063911>Join those meetup thingies online.whats that?
>>34063896sounds gay, imagine being dependant on random people
>>34063943Meetup.com has plenty of events online, from single mixers to christmas parties and stuff like that.
>>34063974Most of them are in person, you'll have better chances of finding in person events if you live near a big city.
>>34063974are there like millennials only. I'm a zoomer
>>34063988So? You want friend groups, don't you?
>>34064013point, beggars can't be choosers or how they say
>>34063896You need to start inviting more people out to things. You need to make it happen.
>>34063896I’ve been doing this for a few years with mixed results. The best path is to make them yourself.If you host yourself, you’re going to have to do a lot of work, but that comes with the territory. If you’re autistic as fuck like me, you’ll do better getting a second to help pull weight on the socializing. If you only invite autists, sometimes it will be fun if they cut loose but sometimes it will be awkward with everyone having their thumb up their ass not talking. You have to do a LOT of work if nobody picks up that slack.Having a rich/generous friend also helps. Logistics is easy, just have cash and call places ahead of time and you can do fuckin anything.>>34063911Meetup is good for establishing 1:1 connections themselves. Carpooling with ppl in your area to farther out especially. That gives you a larger base to recruit from.>>34064186This
>>34064258>Having a rich/generous friend also helps. Logistics is easy, just have cash and call places ahead of time and you can do fuckin anything.Basically "right man in the right place" again. If it were that easy, I already would've had one.
>>34064338That only applies for doing shit that costs money. You can still go out without much money, you just can’t go camping or skiing or to a theme park, etc.Logistics is more about time than money. People are busy and this is the bigger reason they will be retards toward you rather than disliking you. Same thing if some friends are younger and they don’t all have driver’s licenses, or if some people are tee-totallers and others alcoholics “who’s driving who?” etc. Managing people’s personalities is the biggest obstacle.
>>34064338you fucking idiot that dude just told you he organizes events, these events are freeI'm not him, I'm a new guy and I'm telling you I've been using meetup.com since the end of March and Its been so fucking good. If you're ever, ever lonely, go to events from there. There's so, many, fucking, events, and every event has different types of people, you get to meet the world, see the world, It's a super freeing experience. Highly recommend.and don't get stuck with old/boring people, move on to the next meetup if the meetup doesn't seem your vibe for any reason what so ever.
>>34063896Groups of individuals form when they find each other fun/enjoyable to be around, and are sustained when the group as whole is able to benefit each of its individuals. Benefits are usually intangible such as raising moral by asserting that the mutual traits of the members of the group are superior to the traits of other individuals who are not members of the group, or are tangible when they are able to secure materialistic benefits/opportunities among each other (eg work, training, vouchers etc). Which is great if done correctly and if the group is comprised of individuals with virtuous moral character, as opposed to group of mentally ill undereducated pigs who believe in retarded shit such as "karma" or "capitalism rewarding ambition" and such. Lastly, groups cease being groups when they either turn into a cult/circlejerk/gang or by having the group get dissolved once the members of the group have "grown up" in a way that has slightly changed their personalities across time (ie life gets in the way, which is perhaps to be expected in our post-boomers modern world). So yeah, it's about funmaxxing, logisticcoordinationmaxxing, mutualbenifitmaxxing, trustmaxxing, mercymaxxing, groupindentitymaxxing, generositymaxxing, goldenrulemaxxing
>>34063896This isn't the answer you're looking for, but friend groups are overrated. They're often filled with drama, with people either leaving the group or being forced to take sides over dumb bullshit or perceived slights. You're not gonna get a group as close-knit as your pic.Now, some groups can be better than others. Groups filled with nerds are the worst. Nerd groups will have a "popular" subgroup, and all the other people in the group will kiss their ass. It's almost like they're trying to make a pecking order based on an image of "popular kids" they get from movies. And because nerds are horribly insecure, the drama will be the worse.This was my experience in high school when I hanged out with the anime kids. In college I tried a bunch of different clubs, and I noticed the clubs that were outdoorsy or were devoted to charity had nicer people.But these friend groups don't tend to last once you get into your late twenties. If the group doesn't break apart over drama first, you'll eventually only start hanging out and keeping in touch with people you'd consider your best friends. And try to coordinate plans with a group becomes tiresome.>And I might also get along with the other people, but there's always a distance and I never get elevated to "group-member" status.This was me in high school and part of college, and for years I was horribly insecure about how I wasn't elevated. Once I realized I didn't need a "friend group" and just started hanging out with people one on one, I was a lot happier.>I mean sure, I've got other friends too, but they're are singular and the happenings aren't as crazy with them as with a group.You don't need a large group to plan trips, or to roll up to a party or a club. Sounds like you just need a friend who's more adventurous.
>>34063896If I had a sister like Azula then I wouldn’t need to worry about teenage masturbation and pregnancy.
>>34063911I've wanted to go to one of those but always got a bit scared because people would be in established groups and would judge me.
>>34068438>or to roll up to a partyThat's a whole other story...
>>34063896Just join different things. I met most of my friends playing rec kickball. It’s a little random who you meet, so you have to keep trying. Some groups will be open to you, and some won’t just put yourself around new people regularly and be positive and friendly and eventually you’ll fall into something.
>>34064614>You can still go out without much money, you just can’t go campingThis can be one of the easier budget hobbies to get into. Secondhand gear or the cheap Chinese stuff for your big three (tent, bag, pack), most of the rest in good weather is regular synthetic shorts-shirt-and-sneakers gymwear.You can get away with barely any gear if your only goal is joining a dayhike meetup group.
