I was betrayed by the person that I loved and trusted the most. How do I cope with that? How do I move on?Stories are welcome.
>>34063954OP I will say first and foremost that I'm sorry that this happened to you. I can only say that healing from that shit takes a long fucking time. The mistake I see most when people are grieving or recovering from cheating is that they expect it to be something they can fix quickly, but the average time most people take to fully heal from these experiences is actually around 2 years, depending in many ways of course on the severity of the trauma. I personally am divorced and struggled for a very long time in processing what was a pretty awful separation. Most people I've met who have been brutally cheated on or worse take a really long time to get over it. The main thing is that you have to tackle it. There are divorce or cheating support groups out there. Luckily, betrayal is among the most common forms of trauma out there, so there are a lot of people you can relate to when sharing your experience. I was personally betrayed by my mother at a young age when I told her I was suicidal and she didn't support me or get me any help. Wounds like this last a long time, but I will say what has helped me most in many of my own pains has been trying my best to recognize that everyone is human and flawed, and even good people make mistakes that hurt people in ways sometimes evil people aren't even capable of. Life is a lot of pain and a lot of healing. Just know that you are not alone, not even remotely in this experience. It is a tale that is thousands of years old. Ride the wave of grief but don't let it consume you and lead you to distrusting everyone in the future. Best of luck!
>>34066184Fourth advice I'm reading from this dude, he's so solid, reminds me of me holy shit. You're an ace dude!
>>34066241what a lame samefaghow do you even know it's the same person every timethis is so dumbnot everyone is a schizo who thinks they can read the minds of people or whatever dumb power you think you have to detect when a single person posts as opposed to many
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>>34066184thanks for commiseration, anon. Enjoyed reading your post
I dunno fren. I personally don’t move on. I hold grudges. I feel hatred. I want nothing more than to make them feel what I feel because they deserve it. I wish you the best in trying to not be that
>>34063954>I was betrayed>How do I copewhen it happened to me, I went first into self-doubt and loathing. I felt like I had made a mistake of some sort and that it was never their fault. But later did I come to introspection and learned that I basically never had boundaries when it came to others. So I trusted in them far too much and focused much of my life and time to be about them. So when they betrayed me, it came as a sudden shock.>how and why could they do such a thingyou come to a realization that just because you gave so much to them that does not mean they felt the same way back- that you were not living your life to be about your own. I learned that if you didnt have boundaries, other people will happily take advantage of you then betray you later on because they saw you as easy prey. You have to be about your own goals and life and not let anyone move you away- even if its a romantic partner or otherwise. If these people betray your trust, it wont matter, as you always have a "Plan B" anyway and can self-sustain, even without their help.
