I have a first date on Saturday at a bar and I'd say I am a fucking wreck. I am very concerned that I am going to get there and there is going to be no parking and no seating in the bar. The main reason I even think this is that the hour we are going seems like it may be busy time. I basically never go to places whenever they are busy(which means I never go to most restaurants at around dinner time which is like 5-7pm I guess). That is when my date is. Only reason I chose that time is because it worked better for her but now I am sickened with stress. What can I do? I don't want to fuck this up on Saturday but I haven't dated in 8 years. I was never good at it. In fact, the last date I went on ended in flames. Didn't go well at all. I was an awkward mess. Realistically, I just want to calm myself down but if I get to the spot and its full, I am going to freak out. What would you guys do in a situation like that? Maybe I am worrying about nothing. I asked a friend who had been there and he told me its more busy in that bar on Saturday towards the later part of the evening. Like 8-10pm. Maybe he is right. I just don't want the woman to think I am a shitty date.
>>34064019OP, I really wish I could just pat you on the shoulder IRL and tell you to RELAX MY MAN! If you are putting yourself out there after 8 years of not dating, that is a fucking HUGE accomplishment. Give yourself some credit for having the courage to follow through with this. the amount of bravery it takes to do something like this is not to be understated. Your fears and anxieties and awkward predictions are valid and it's okay to feel that way. What I would suggest is just try your best to be authentic and considerate. Try to not let your anxiety and your fear steer the ship. Fear is not a good captain. Lead instead with curiosity, excitement, maybe a healthy amount of discernment. You need to admit to yourself that you are probably trying to predict what will happen because you are trying to control the situation. Dating is not a matter of trying to control the outcome. You have to let things play out naturally, and try your best to stop taking things so personally. Just because a date did not go well, doesn't even necessarily mean that you're a bad date. If you highlight a behavior during a date that you don't like, just treat it as a learning opportunity instead of beating yourself to death for every flaw. You're a human being, you haven't dated in 8 years, it would be weird if you didn't feel any anxiety or nervousness. Your reactions are so incredibly normal. Just try and breathe, be honest, and let it happen. I believe in you OP. And if this date doesn't go well and you give up on dating, I'm gonna find be fucking pissed
>>34066168Yo I'm riding the cock carousel for this dude today, he posted in the Somalian guy thread and also in another one, extremely based responses. Really fucking incredible what the hell. Brotherman you aren't going to get better advice than this. Don't try to control the situation too much because dating is a mutual thing. Be okay with failure. If it doesn't work out I think it's better to go out with your self respect mostly intact than to let it ruin you for several months or years.You got this man!! <3
>>34066168>>34066195OP here. Thanks a lot for the help. I will act on this advice and it won't be in vain.
