Can you judge a parent based on how functional their kids are as adults?Generally speaking.
Yes, obviously?If you teach your child to kick cats, he will do it. If you leave him in front of his cell phone 24 hours a day, he will never touch a book
>>34064814Nope. I have five siblings and they are practically homeless but I own several properties. My mom sucks ass.
no. a lot of parents had to work so hard just to keep a roof over kids heads and food on the table they didn't have time for all the stuff kids need to be self actualized and securely attached. so long as we live in a society that refuses to significantly subsidize the costs of having children people will slip through the cracks.
>>34064841But at what age of the kids does the fault stop being the parents?
>>34064990>>34064841>>34064814Its a question that has no clearly defined answer. The interplay between nature and nurture is often nearly impossible to identify and differentiate from one another. Genes do not express themselves in a vacuum. Environment is a factor 100% of the time. How much of a factor is anybody's guess but we do know one thing for certain - environment plays the largest factor on the aggregate. A person's outcomes can, for the most part, be fairly predicted based on the environment they were brought up in. That being said, there are always exceptions. Personal anectotes will work against whatever understanding you want to gain about just how much "free will" plays a part in the way people behave. The way I would describe it is that free will is like a deck of cards. People can freely choose which cards to play but the ENVIRONMENT chooses which cards you are even aware exists. For example, how is a person whose parents never showed them love supposed to freely choose a functional relationship? They have no clue what it looks like. They're not even aware such a thing is possible because they've never seen it. People are complicated. I dunno, research it or something I guess.
>>34064814I think this question is as old as fucking time, as others have pointed out. I think it's worth investigating in your own life and observing the data if it matters to you. I personally think it's important how people parent their children of course, but I also believe the deeper topic is how resolving your childhood within yourself is a pretty universal experience necessary for most people to develop into mature and enlightened people. I think if you spend too little time addressing your childhood, you will sorely miss out on the reality of your experiences. However, I will say if you dwell too long in the past, you will miss out on the present, and at worst become a chronic victim. I would suggest not falliing for the common eternal overgeneralizations of society. It is an endless and pointless topic most of the time.
>>34064814Theoretically yes you canPractically no you can't Because there are more factors that go into maturation than just parental influence, such as the "village", aka peers and immediate community that influences a kid. There's also elements outside of the control of parents, like disorders or diseases.
