I don't get it. I'm 25 and never had a gf. I have no women my age in my life. Closest woman to me is my mom. How am I supposed to fare about women when I don't have one? How am I supposed to give a shit about women's issues if I don't have one? They're all getting fucked in their asses and pussies while I rot here alone? Where am I supposed to find empathy or respect for them?
A lot men around the world are in this exact position. It's different for everyone. I would say that there is a toxic culture around gender or race that paints a lot of issues as black and white, male and female. If you ask yourself, "How can I have empathy for women?" just instead consider how you would have empathy for anyone. If you are lacking empathy, it means you don't love yourself enough truly in your own heart. Empathy is just another shade of love, and love for others starts with love for ourselves. We reflect our inner world outward. Most men in your situation have been neglected by society and have been pushed by different forces into a resentment of women. It is not too different than any toxic mindset that enters any community. Just know that any mindset that sets its foundation in hatred, resentment, jealousy, in anything except love, it is doomed to fail and lead you to misery. If you don't recognize that energy in your own words, just consider that that is the impression I've received from your post. I didn't have a gf until 21, had never even kissed anyone before. It stunted my growth as a person but many people in my life love me even though I am a little maladjusted. What worked for me was recognizing that I had to let go of the way I viewed the world, because that method and worldview only made me miserable. Beliefs that lead you to misery are not true. The only path forward is material. Improving yourself through diet, exercise, therapy, building friendships, and working your way as best you can to having gratitude and learning from your mistakes, listening to the feedback your receive, and reaching for some kind of meaning. We're all on the same path, and the only illusion is that you're alone in it.
>>34066009Sheesh, an actually good post? In this economy? On 4chan of all places?Listen to this guy OP, the main message he carries - focus less about your mindset, instead - focus on actual actions to take care of yourself, your affairs, and your environment. Physically.It all starts with the body. Eat well, exercise, shower, take care of your teeth, your hair, your hygiene, your clothes. Only after this, go to events. Friends will come on their own. I'm actually on the same grindset. I've finally boiled it down to the elements life should be about. Pic related I just made this for you (and for myself) - it's the code that I crackedI came from a very difficult household, and I wasn't taught self care or self love. I was taught total utter annihilative neglect for the self and love for the others. It ruined and is still ruining me because I seek all of my validation outside. I unironically feel like the 30 year old virgin because I had a 5 year long gf and now it's gone and she cheated on me and suddenly it feels like it was a fluke and I have zero idea on how to get a new girl. But this, this is the way. Never neglect yourself, you are top. Follow this chart top to bottom on EEEEEVERYTHING you do. ALWAYS. NEVER EVER EVER EVER LET A BITCH OR SCHOOL OR ACTIVITIES COME FIRST TO YOUR HEALTH. That's IT!!!good luck my man <3 I say this to all of us in this thread, and anyone else reading.
Be a hardcore person that is actually hardcore, not hardcore from a middle schooler's perspective. Extremely difficult.
