>>34067240
My friend had that same story except he was the man in the situation who ghosted/left the girl and whined about how she was too innocent and didn't wanna ruin shit. I wonder if my friend is your guy in the story lol.

Anyway yeah welcome to the 'bad guy'. Contrary to what retards here believe, they are extremely pathetically shy and afraid of love whenever they meet an innocent 'nice girl'. They usually have a lot of fucked up problems like alcoholism or drug abuse and an abusive upbringing and developed a lot of self hate and severe lack of empathy for others. Except when they see someone who is untouched by evil, when they see that they regress into a scared little kid themselves and feel too ashamed and undeserving and will run away every time because they are afraid of what you would think of them if you truly saw through their cold heart persona and witnessed the terrified little kid inside of them.

What the actual fuck
Describe the man, what does he look like?

>>34067256
Not op
That was so goddamn specific lol
Also, I thought "the bad guy not wanting to taint innocent girl" troupe was only in movies, you talk a lot of bullshit

>>34067256
I know, I was almost wondering if it’s my ex.

Except he just ruined my innocence anyway. Lol.

>>34067262
dirty blonde, blue eyes, about 177cm?
his name begins with A... we are both catholic

>>34067264
>You talk a lot of bullshit
Reality begs to differ my nigger. It's the "nice guys" who taint and ruin innocent girls in real life, always has been. I know of one such man who did exactly that and abandoned his own son to be a sperg who does nothing but watch marvel and play fortnite.

>>34067262
Short dirty blonde/light brown hair, has dimples when he smiles, tall and lean, loves to play pinball machines, lives alone, goes to raves often

i currently like and trying to talk to a guy like that. its driving me crazy. im doing my best at being patient, but its frustrating. i know he is worth it though.

>>34067275
And what is a bad boy like you doing on 4chin?

>>34067273
>we are both catholic
I swear 70% of catholic women are like this...

>>34067281
why are you pretending to be me?
>>34067288
what do you mean?

>>34067283
>And what is a bad boy like you doing on 4chin?
I’m not a bad boy, I just make friends with a lot of types. Bad boys, nice guys, schizo lads, sociopathic bruisers, psychotic crazies, bipolars, narcissistic pricks, autistic loners, you name it I know it, I like to collect people and then I observe

>>34067240
Next time try dating the guy instead of being upset about no immediate sex

He has a beautiful tan because he went to Spain around a month ago, he goes to the gym and is very strong but can barely go up the stairs anymore because he smokes a lot. His eyes are sad but shine with life. He has a coke problem but he’s working on it. He smells divine. His parents have a huge age gap and fought when he was a child.
I miss him

>>34067346
Dude sounds like he has problems. Don't romanticize some duggie please.

>>34067353
He doesn’t do coke anymore

>>34067346
>He has a beautiful tan because he went to Spain around a month ago, he goes to the gym and is very strong but can barely go up the stairs anymore because he smokes a lot. His eyes are sad but shine with life. He has a coke problem but he’s working on it. He smells divine. His parents have a huge age gap and fought when he was a child.

Lmao yep holy shit you dated my friend. You just described his upbringing, right down to the age gap. Anyway as predicted:
>Drug problem
>Addictions
>Bad problems at home as a kid

Anyway on the 10% chance you’re the girl my homie was seeing, don’t beat yourself up about it. He’s been like this in the 15 years I’ve known him. He’s a very good guy at his core but his inner demons won the fight a long time ago, he doesn’t want to find love and wants to be alone. Is what it is

>>34067396
Tell him that if he doesn’t see me tonight I’m going to the north to get killed and raped by niggers

>>34067427
>Tell him that if he doesn’t see me tonight I’m going to the north to get killed and raped by niggers

Lol nah i dont think im gonna say it to him, besides still a good chance he’s not the same guy. But if it makes you feel better I was the one who told him to take a chance and date the girl (possibly you), and when he confided in me that he felt lime running I called him a dumbass for self sabotaging and throwing away a good thing. Nothing else can be done. You should find something else OP

>>34067450
You don’t get it anon, there’s nothing «else»
I also had a fucked up childhood, I understand it too well
To save him, is to save myself

>>34067321
But back to your previous reply
What youre saying doesnt make sense cause bad boys are usually the selfish type

>>34067461
>I CAN FIX HIM
lmao

Fred?

Sounds like you met a nice guy and are making excuses as to why your slutty, drunken bullshit scared him off.

>>34067501
I thought it was my inexperience that repulsed him

>>34067461
>I also had a fucked up childhood, I understand it too well
>To save him, is to save myself

You don’t understand it too well. You understand it well, but not too well. If you did you’d have the missing piece of the puzzle. You’re anxious-attachment, the codependent, the ‘nice girl’ who wants to try and control the bad guy and get him to love you once you ‘fix’ him.

And you think this will fix you, how? He isn’t your parents. Fixing him won’t undo the years of chaos you watched helplessly as it burned your childhood in your own home. You know that, right?

>>34067478
>What youre saying doesnt make sense cause bad boys are usually the selfish type
On the surface yes, on the inside no. They appear to be selfish because they are chasing delusions of ‘freedom’. They act out and live wild as a means to run away from pain. When push comes to shove, they actually show mercy.

‘nice guys’ are the ones with the selfless surface, selfish at the core though. They always seek to control others but they call it ‘fixing’ others. And if you try to break free from their control, you will notice they do not know what mercy is.

Anyway both types are lame as fuck. Best people are those who embody both styles at the same time and found balance.

>>34067510
It's probably that. Idk how old you are, but even still I think losing your v card in a botched drunken movie date isn't exactly a good idea or a good story.

T. Rejected taking girls v card multiple times because they where way to drunk.

>>34067530
>You’re anxious-attachment
I was avoidant and self sabotaging… I like to think I got over it but I can’t know for certain. I never been in a romantic relationship or anything similar, so being desired just as briefly got me completely destabilised

>>34067367
:)

>>34067557
Alright well now you know your own type. Anxious-avoidant. There's four attachment styles: Avoidant, anxious, anxious-avoidant and then secure. Aim for secure. If you date an avoidant, like this guy, you'll go full anxious. If you date an anxious type, you'll go full avoidant. Date a secure type and you become secure. Better yet, just hang around secure people don't need to even date or fuck anyone for that. Chasing this guy is just gonna keep you in a bullshit cycle of reliving your past, that's regressive and you won't grow from that only stagnate.

>>34067573
You sound like a fst angry foid.

>>34067573
My type of men is absent father, controlling mother, perfectionist, ambitious, substance abuse, fucked up sexuality, because it’s literally me
It has happened before

>>34067580
That's right I am a fat angry foid, I have hello kitty bedsheets rn and sanrio patches sewn into my pink and black backpack. I play genshin impact and manipulate lonely young men on discord for attention while drinking my weight in caramel lattes from Starbucks and living like a girly girl when really I have no female friends and was never really "one of the girls" because my mom hates me and never helped me become a woman in my own right. I also have many "cat scratches" on my wrists that strangely never fade and I have a septum piercing the whole not and caboodle

>>34067586
For real

>>34067584
>Because it's literally me
So you want to use someone else who reminds you of (you) so you can try to love yourself using someone else as a proxy because you are unable to give yourself a fucking break?

>>34067593
Maybe? I don’t know
Would it make my feelings less legitimate?
There’s certainly a reason why we seek to emulate the patterns of our childhood

>>34067240
Try to play a psychiatrist a little bit. Ask why the nigga acting so wierdly.

>>34067641
Im very self aware anyways…
I wish someone would try to save me the way im always trying to save anyone
God I’m so drunk

>>34067641
No, it wouldn’t make your feelings less legitimate. Your feelings are heccin’ valid and all that empowering reddit tier shit. It’s true your feels are legitimate. But just because feelings are legitimate doesn’t mean not mean the feelings are pointing towards a functional and healthy future.

A heroin junkie strongly feels he loves the hit of opiates. His feelings are legitimate. Doesn’t mean they’re gonna be beneficial long term though lol. You understand? Sometimes our feelings can be our own enemy and must be tempered with reason. And that means letting yourself feel the feelings, but do not let them guide your actions blindly.

>There’s certainly a reason why we seek to emulate the patterns of our childhood
Yeah, because they’re familiar. And familiarity feels comfortable, even if that familiarity is objectively fucked up. The brain doesnt care if its bad, if it feels familiar, it’ll always choose it. Think of war veterans who were in WW2 or vietnam. Did you know a lot of them felt depression and anxiety when the wars were ending? They wanted to keep fighting because it had become familiar, and without it theyd go insane. Some long time prison inmates commit suicide or drink themselves to death if they are let out, because they cant function outside of the familiar prison.

Just because something is a familiar pattern doesnt mean you should submit to it. Make a new pattern, a better one.

>>34067683
I know but I want us to get better
I want him to get better
I’m going to throw myself into the river, but idk if it cold enough to die

>>34067704
Notice you said:
>I want us to get better
>I want him to get better
But you never said
>I want to get better

Instead you decide to throw yourself into a river like a piece of trash. That’s how little you respect yourself, girlie. And you need to apologise to yourself for being a massive bitch to yourself. Because you don’t deserve such treatment and you need to stop waiting to be saved or trying to save others in hopes they save you in return. How about save yourself? Maybe learn from others on how to do that?

>>34067712
>Because you don’t deserve such treatment and you need to stop waiting to be saved or trying to save others in hopes they save you in return. How about save yourself? Maybe learn from others on how to do that?
you poor girl, you innocent little flower, you're loved, you deserve better

>>34067573
Lmao, have you ever met, not mentioning dated, secure type chick? It’s a fairytale and made up story for people who believe in romance and true love

>>34067530
>And if you try to break free from their control, you will notice they do not know what mercy is.
Oh well youre right on one thing at least

He saw my instagram story
Why can’t he come to me

Hé came
We kissed