There is a girl in my uni seminar, we're in the same group and we present each other science papers Evers week. She sometimes makes jokes about things making her want to kill herself. I just kind of brushed it of but yesterday she did it again. Should I ask her if everything is OK/if she wants to talk? I mean I don't want to be presumptious, maybe that's just her Humor, but I don't know... What would you do in my situation? Keep in mind that we only see each other in class and only really talk while being in the setting of the seminar, I think we do have fun and geht along fine though. Also keep in mind that I tend to be shy and anxious with tendencies of spaghetti spillage. So wat do?
>>34067331youre so autistic
>>34067384Yeah, maybe. You're not really helping though.
>>34067416shes not being serious, she is kidding
>>34067331>>she makes jokes about 'things' making her want to kill herselfWhat kinda things? >>yesterday she did it againPicrelYou guys share science papers right? Science news can make me wanna die sometimes, particularly Bad science news. Anything going on there?
>>34067437>shes not being serious, she is kiddingPeople who are actually considering killing themselves often joke about it.
>>34069481I think it's called Gallows Humor or something like that
>>34067331Don't open with the killing yourself bit. Sac=ve that for later. Start with "I liked your paper this week. Want to talk about it some more, over coffee?" Then go from the science topic to general chat, and maybe then to "You sounded really down about something last week."
>>34069278>>What kinda things?Basically stress from school/being forced to do course work that she is not interested in. The second example is what she gave last time as a reason for wanting to kill herself, though the paper we talked about, she liked.>>PicrelHonestly I wouldn't usually be that concerned about that kind of humor but to me she seems: - Sensitive- Easily emotional- Very socially awareEspecially the third point makes me think that her jokes seem out of place. I don't really know people that do that when they're talking to what amounts to acquaintances while still being socially aware otherwise, but like I said idk...>>Was it bad science news?Nah, we actually both liked the paper that she presented. It was about flow theory.
tell her you're concerned about her over winter break (sarcastic) and say she needs to go out with you to monitor her self esteem over the winter
