Here's the thing, I'm talking to a woman on Badoo. She mentioned in her bio that she likes beards in men - I happen to have one.She was praising it from the beginning and overall she was very warm and sweet to me (ex. using diminutives for my name).But she wasn't as talkative as I am, but overall responded to all the topics at time, asking questions and adding some topics herself.She also wasn't very active on that app ever, she would get on it every few - dozen hours and for a short time.In my last response to her I kinda did get comfy with my talkativeness and IDK if it overwhelmed her or somethingbut she wouldn't respond for 24+ hours and when she did, she responded kinda short even for her standard.She did mention one topic, said how it's interesting to her and she would like to hear more. She responded to my ADHD claimwith "I'm more of a reserved person but the problem is I'm not here too often".Okay, but in that same (last) message I asked her where can I text her outside of the app.So why did she only claim she doesn't come here often but didn't give me her contact elsewhere? Why did she respond so low-effort?Is it low interest or was she actually overwhelmed? If it's the former, why say she wants to hear some more about a certain topic?
>>34069296Just to add some info, here are the amount of characters per message:>Me (opener): 270>Her: 210>Me: 507>Her: 370>Me: 487>Her: 368>Me: 671>Her: 276>Me: 698>Her: 513>Me: 1429 + a meme pic (Here's where I overdone it, talked about a few topics and proposed using some other social media)>Her: 154 (Her lowest effort respoonse yet, after 24h+, where she said she wanted to hear about one particular topic some more and that she's more calm and reserved but doesn't visit the app too often, but didn't give me any other contact info)I was thinking about responding in 24 hours and basically just asking "If you aren't here too often, where can I find you?".
Bump. I didn't text her, she texted first, asking me nicely for my fb. It surprised me a lot. I send her the link, but she didn't respond since then.Is she socially retarded?
>>34069306idk what any of this means but based on this post, no you shouldnt be pursuing romantic endeavors and instead focus on your ocd
>>34071183No, but you are. Honest question, do you not see how insane this is? The level of focus time and energy you devoted to overanalyzing this screams OCPD (not OCD) or just unwellness in general. You really need help regardless of whether youre aware or not asap. Even just a peer service to talk to another human so you start to break this insane spiral
