How do I stop sabotaging relationships because deep down I feel as if I don't deserve love. I wouldn't care if this only affected me, but it also affects those who I interact with, primarily any individuals I feel romantically inclined to
>>34070022therapy
>>34070022You sabotage it because you are afraid of what that love will evolve into. You are afraid that it will hurt you in the end. And you learned this because there’s been people in your life that claimed to love you, yet the things they have done crippled you. So you fear that allowing love to grow with someone will mean facing the same nightmare eventually. You get scared, you sabotage it and run away. And you don’t mind sabotaging it and being the ‘bad person’ because that’s a role that was cast on you for a long time presumably from the same people who claimed to love you, you are numb to it, so you use it as a means to make others think you are the bad person hide the fact you are the scared person. And that’s the last thing you want others to see because then it would mean they would finish you off, what little is left of you. The way to stop the cycle is to let yourself be loved anyway, regardless of what you think or feel or fear. Let the chips fall where the may and stand your ground.
I miss who she was before she started being around shitty people
>>34070022Realize that when you decide you are not worthy of love you are actually insulting those who offer you love. You are saying "I know what you wanr better than you do, and you are stupid to be attracted to me."Decide, as a matter of choice, to give them the courtesy of allowing them to make up their own minds about you
