I find that I am particularly unkind to myself and I believe its making my life way harder than it is. Most mornings when I get up, my first thought is usually something like "You are such a fucking idiot" or retard etc. I was reading that if you say things like that to yourself, what can help is fighting back and saying "No, that isn't true." So I have been trying that and I think it helps but not that much. I find it just impossible to be kind to myself because I truly feel like a failure in many facets. 35 and no kids, no house etc. Never had a girlfriend, never traveled, never explored much of anything. I feel honestly like garbage. The only thing I have going for me is that I am physically healthy. Just not mentally or emotionally healthy. How can I learn to be more kind to myself? I truly feel this holds me back because I feel so stupid for even just trying to help myself. What do you do when you are your own worst enemy?
>>34071682I like to journal because it forces me to organize my ideas in a more logical manner, then I can list the issues that I have, and make small steps to improve. I track my goals with a planner. But, in general, I think the key is to try as much as I can to let go of the past. I don't look through my old journals, I throw them away. I've done and thought so many stupid and embarassing things. I try my best to live each day on its own, not in the shadow of my past. I always like what old jordan peterson had to say, try to talk to yourself like you would to a friend, sometimes i go full schizo and talk to myself (one voice is unreasonable and self hating) the other voice is friendly and kind, then i usually work it out
>>34071682What would you say to your 25 year old self?
>>34071906"We will move mountains"
>>34071837thanks
