the thing that annoys me about being a male with bpd is that there's no social role that I fit intoI'm anxious and neurotic and crave attention, so I can't be the independent alpha stoic rock or whatever it is that women like. If I were a woman, I could get a bunch of tattoos and piercings and have a lots of casual sex, and sure, people would look down on me and I would probably be unhappy, but I would get some attention and validation out of it, and (mostly importantly) I would fit into a social role that is understood by both myself and societybut what am I supposed to do as a guy? Like I said before, I'm anxious and neurotic so I don't get any attention for my personality. I'm not a chad so I don't get attention from my looksso what the fuck am I even supposed to do? Just sit here and have mood swings while I obsess over women that will never like me back? it pisses me off. Yeah, women with bpd are annoying, but their disorder doesn't fundamentally debase their attractiveness. But this shit is like a death sentence for me. I'm everything that a man shouldn't be and I have no idea what to do about it>inb4 troon outthis isn't about wanting to be a woman, this is about wanting to>inb4 date women with bpdwomen with bpd don't want men with bpd. They want either ultra stable stoic men that will have a stabilizing effect on them or dark triad chads that will have have insane rapey sex with themthe only social role that I could maybe fit into is the "bleeding heart tortured artist", but I'm not good enough at art or music (yet) to pull it off, and also I think you have to be extroverted to make that one workmy game plan at this point is to just socially isolate myself so that I can try to find purpose in my creative hobbies while simultaneously avoiding interactions with women that will make me feel bad. Doesn't feel like a great life strategy thoughso idk, help a nigga out
>>34071688welcome to the life of an incel
You wont like the truth. But you need to stop thinking about involving other people in your shit. Figure yourself out, get your mess under control. Stop offloading responsibility and accountability for your life onto other people. Reflecting was step one. Real work now is step two
>>34071688look for equally mentally ill girls who like the obsession and lovebomb them or kill yourself that's basically about it
>>34071935>inb4 date women with bpddidn't read the post award
>>34072026I don't know what to say just dark triad maxx its not that hard especially when you are insane yourself
>>34072032NIGGA did you even read the postI'm ANXIOUSand NEUROTICi'm the fucking opposite of a psychopath I'm just a whiny sensitive little faggot. A normalfag is closer to aspd than me
>>34072026>>34072035Youre legitimately fucked because you choose to ignore the real advice in here and chase external validation. And that is why you will always be miserable. Whenever you feel the high it will always be temporary before a massive crash. And the length of high will shrink over time until you cant sucker people in anymore and youll be alone with yourself forever
>>34071688Mindfulness, dbt, observe and feel emotions instead of acting on them. Emotions are fleeting. Work on yourself dumbass. I'll repeat again: work on yourself. You can change. Emotions are fleeting. You aren't your emotions or patterns.
>>34071688>get a bunch of tattoos and piercings and have a lots of casual sexOnly thing stopping you from doing this is yourself.
>>34071688Try to be happy being alone, okay. You're going down a rabbit hole, and if you don't stop you'll end up worse than where you are at now.
>>34071688working on your art and music skills could be a good idea. not so much in order to fit into an archetype but because it can be a good, grounding habit for you that also lets you connect with others more easily.
>>34071688Get a perfect AI girlfriend who will never betray you.
