Per suggestions from my Friends and most recently my therapist, I am trying out dating apps again and I have a few questions.1) I'm getting quite a few matches, and even replies from attractive women. They will go from posting paragraphs to suddenly no reply at all. I assume their attention has been pulled elsewhere by another guy? Is it even worth trying to message them again to try and get their attention back? I assume not.2) I've been on two dates with two women.>First one was great, and I think we'll actually stay friends but not date. Lotta great conversation.>Second one was really great and this woman has been flirting with me up until the date.After the date, she keeps talking to me, but has significantly cut back on conversations, doesn't bombard me with memes on instagram anymore. And by all accounts seems uninterested. But she keeps texting me? I've asked her out on a second date, and she just keeps dodging it and making up excuses to not go. So clearly she isn't interested, but she keeps texting me out of the blue.So that's my first question. Why is she doing this? Just keeping me in her back pocket just in case her prime candidates don't work out? I'm not upset at this either way. I'm doing the same thing, but should I just block her then? I told her to just let me know when you're available to hang out again and left it at that.Second broader question is, I have had multiple women tell me they're not interested but that I am "such a catch". How does that even work? Is it just them being nice? If I was such a catch, wouldn't you want to go out with me?
There's no way a therapist would suggest dating apps and then you post this shit. Unwell baitTry harder next tine
I realize I fucked up my formatting while writing this so I'll clean it up here.1) Is it worth trying to start a conversation after it dies off? Or should I just unmatch?2) What's the deal with a woman dodging a second date, but texting me and trying to get my attention still? Just validation? Keeping me as a backup?3) What does it mean to "Be a catch", when the same women that tell me this aren't' interested in seeing me again. I've had like 5 or 6 girls tell me this, one of them being my ex.I'm new to how this game is played, but I'm reasonably attractive and I get out quite a lot so I'm not afraid of talking to women, but maybe I'm afraid of initiating intimacy due to not growing up in a loving and supportive family.>>34072964I'm just new to using dating apps, I think I'm fairly well-adjusted overall.
>>34072949>Per suggestions from my Friends and most recently my therapist, I am trying out dating apps againIf your therapist seriously recommended dating apps you might wanna find a new therapist.>I assume their attention has been pulled elsewhere by another guy?Maybe. But women on dating apps are notorious jugglers. They can juggle convos with multiple men at a time. If they stop replying, it’s because they got bored or didn’t want it to advance further.>Is it even worth trying to message them againNo.>But she keeps texting me? I've asked her out on a second date, and she just keeps dodging it and making up excuses to not go.Because she wants to keep you as an option while seeing someone else at worst, at best she has no intention to date anyone including you and prefers the free attention from texts. Many women on those apps don’t even have sex or go on serious dates, to them it’s just a free repository of attention. >Why is she doing this?Because she doesn’t actually want a connection, just validation. There is the 1% chance she is extremely anxious and shy and is simply afraid of getting serious and isn’t a malicious person. But those odds are slim.>I have had multiple women tell me they're not interested but that I am "such a catch". How does that even work?Women are the passive sex. They’re pussies. That’s why the name for a coward “pussy” was named after female genitalia. Because women are afraid of being blunt or direct and will always use fake positivity to dodge conflict or confrontation or accountability.>Is it just them being nice?No, it’s them being dishonest. Doesn’t mean you are not a catch, it means they are too afraid to admit they don’t have feels for you. >If I was such a catch, wouldn't you want to go out with me?Welcome to tinder/hinge/dating apps women my friend.Uninstall the apps, and tell your therapist to go fuck themself.
>>34072976Well adjusted people don't go ANYWHERE near what your brain is currently doing. The faster you get that, the faster you stop externalizing accountability for your life and your mental health being this broken still by seeking women on apps instead of doing actual hard work on yourself
>>34073018Not OP but i’m extremely mentally ill myself and even I know dating apps are a waste of time.
>>34073013OP here. Guess that's /thread then that checks out.Therapist suggested dating apps as a way to "form connections" since I've been struggling to make meaningful connections with people and that's what my therapist was trying to do; just get me talking to people.>>34073018I'm just asking questions about what I've experienced in the like 5 weeks I've been on a dating app, homie. Outside of this, I work a solid job, I have friends, I go out ot bars, I hike, and I travel among more introverted hobbies. I'm mentally ill with anhedonia or whatever, and I'm trying to regain some happiness and feeling.
>>34073032If you're trying to 'regain happiness and feeling' then why the fuck are you overanalyzing women's behaviour and saying shit like 'prime candidates'. If you're just socializing for fun then it wouldn't be hitting you this hard. You can be in denial as much as you want but you're looking for something specificSPOILER: you're fucked anon. All this shit you list is just avoidance. You're avoiding that you're not actually well or becoming well by novelty seeking and externalizing accountability. Ta-da
>>34073032>Therapist suggested dating apps as a way to "form connections" since I've been struggling to make meaningful connections with people and that's what my therapist was trying to do; just get me talking to people.Too bad dating apps are the opposite of connection. Dating apps are about masking, performing, concealing your negative traits and only showing the ‘good’, tip-toeing around verbally, everyone on their best behaviour, insincere posturing, passive-aggressive ‘flirting’, and everyone looking for quick and easy “give me sex/love now” situation. Dating apps are a mockery of human connection where it attempts to make it like fast-food: quick and convenient. If you want a meaningful connection it means being able to talk about whatever you want, even the dark or messed up or tragic parts. Talking with others who had the similar upbringing and anhedonia issues. Sharing pain and sadness that sort of thing, that will form a connection for sure since it’d be authentic.
>>34073068>SPOILER: you're fucked anon. All this shit you list is just avoidance. You're avoiding that you're not actually well or becoming well by novelty seeking and externalizing accountability. Ta-daYou know for someone who says OP is over-analysing, you sure as shit love doing that yourself.
>>34073076If you were a plumber for a couple decades, it becomes second nature to look at a piece of shit and be able to comfortably say its a piece of shit within a few seconds and a few context clues and be right 90% of the time.It's called mastering something, try it sometime>>34073071We could say go join a group at the library but based on the 5 other threads discussing it here today, it's full of 40+ year olds and therefore not worth the time or something I guess. Better to be on carousel of dopamine hunters and escapism addicts
>>34073090>It's called mastering something, try it sometimeNah it’s called being a hyper-vigilant jaded asshole who thinks they can discern the depths of others based on snapshots of information and patterns you’ve only ever witnessed from the internet. And don’t try to bullshit me either, game knows game. I used to pull your stunts too back when I too was misanthropic and frustrated at the world. OP has given no indication of being a piece of shit whatsoever.
>>34073107>criticized over-analysing>over-analyses
>>34073119Damn right I did, and if you think it’s retarded remember that’s what you ran on OP lol.
>>34072949find a new therapist.
