As a 33 YO Hetero man in the "west", how do you know when to give up with women and that you'll never be any woman's (you like) first choice?
you know when youre a 33 year old man and you think youll ever be anyones first choice.
>>34073058What if he's a 33 YO guy who looks early-mid 20s. He could lie about his age on a dating app, no?
I know a 42 year old guy who got like a 30 year old girlfriend and she seems really happy with him.I think this women stuff is like picking up the guitar, gotta put in the reps. And probably get therapy if you're unable to put in the reps.
>>34073056Don’t give up on finding a woman for yourself. But do give up on the idea of love being a matter of ‘first choice’. Even in cases where the woman is a virgin, people do not simply look at someone and say “Yes this is the husband, I have known them for a week and I have decided this is husband. I have made the choice and it’s final.”That’s not how reality works, OP. The way it works is through repetition, through familiarity. Love is built by becoming more and more of a constant in that person’s life, eventually they realise they feel shit without you and then they know they love you. And that takes time and mutual effort to build.
>>34073173WDYM by "putting in the reps"? Not a native english speaker here, don't know what that entails.>>34073187>And that takes time and mutual effort to build.Yeah, that's the thing. I can't seem to find any woman, no matter their age really, to reciprocate almost anything (except for maybe the few first days).Probably has to do with their unlimited options, social media and dating apps, giving them the false security of never ending choices. IDK. That's why I asked about bein first choice.
I suggest you realize that you might not be the problem here. You know, it's not always you. This market is over saturated, nobody is being taken out of it, so the very little amount of good woman just get snatched in a second.
>>34073220DESU I had those thoughts myself too. That makes sense because:1) feminism and social media made a lot of women unbearable - mostly boosted their ego while decreasing their actual value2) I do really think that there fewer women than men, it's like most newborns are males
>>34073233Yeah most of them are unfortunately brain-washed and brain-rotted from modern technology or used and cannot form a connection anymore. About your second point, maybe but you need to check the demographics in your region. But then again, I think its just that many woman are pursuing careers and not looking for relationships.
>>34073392>I think its just that many woman are pursuing careers and not looking for relationships.I don't care about those, obviously, but the ones that seemingly are trying to imply that they are looking for a man - seem to be unable to do so.
>>34073079>He could lie about hisThe most solid foundation of any relationship>>34073233>1) feminism and social media made a lot of women unbearablePeople who write this never experienced a world before social media, and certainly not a world before feminism.It's on the very top of the first page of lists of incel copes.
>>34073201>Probably has to do with their unlimited options, social media and dating apps, giving them the false security of never ending choices.You also have those things, retardo.
>>34073233okay but there are statistically more women than there are men
>>34073415Yes, career woman are the worst. The ones that imply the are looking for man, that means they are getting their cheeks clapped by chad and tyrone, but they can't lock them into a relationship so they are "looking" , you can disregard those too. The whole game is rigged. The whole point of this is not to give up, but to realize how this game is being played and that its rigged against you.
>>34073435Simply because women live MUCH longer than men. But more men are being born, so during the ages of "cuffing", there are more women, surely.
You give up when the realization of how fucked the dating world is sinks in, and how a man is better off not participating. Instead, find other worthy pursuits to keep you occupied/fulfilled. The guys who throw their lives into the meat grinder are dumbasses. Don't follow their poor examples.
>>34073439How many times a day do you think about Chad and Tyrone?
>>34073453You are not special
>>34073079He could just go outside where theres no age number tacked next to his picture. All those numbers ( height too) matter A LOT less when women meet you as a person first and not a dataset.>>34073422If he actually stoops down to dating apps, theres little choice. Most women have a filter set that automatically hides men above 30/35. Real life of course offers no such filters.
>>34073201Putting in the reps is a term from weight lifiting, to progress there you need to put in the repetitions, actually lift a bar loaded with heavy weights, repeatedly.Same with social/romantic stuff, gotta pu t in time socializing, with men and women. For a denizen of 4chan, I would also recommend therapy, from a guy specifically, they're more likely to function like a coach than a hugbox, guys need a coach more than a hugbox.
