I'm 20 and for all my childhood and adolescence I had been shy and social anxious until I turned 18. Since then, I have been trying to improve my social skills, but there is something that I just can't get it on that is talking to women (women from my family not included). I don't know how to approach, what to talk or how to get a girl to kiss me, everytime I try to talk with one I just look like a robot.How the fuck do you talk to an woman? They all seem to have poor knowledge about more complex things, it just feels like I can't talk with them about metaphysical or technology heavy subjects (which I like to talk about) because they all seem to know nothing or get bored when you talk about these subjetcs with them.
it depends on the womanthe "normal" way to talk to them used to be flirting playfully. but now there are a lot of women who don't like that.
Heavily depends on the woman, some just make it hard for you to talk to them, so don't think youre the problem, it goes both ways to have a conversation. Just continue talking with different woman.
I don't know what exactly you mean by 'approach', it's better to talk to women when you have a context that allows an organic conversation to happen (like she's taking a class with you, or she's a coworker, or it's a date from a dating app).Getting better at socializing is like learning the guitar, you have to practice doing the thing, not read about it. One useful piece of advice is that you have to internalize that you can't get on with literally anyone, sometimes you don't vibe conversations peter out, that's fine, it's just how things work.Also, what's your baseline? Do you have at least one friend? I think I wouldn't even bother with anything romantic if I had 0 friends. Not a big deal, just handle that first, establishes you have basic social skills.
The issue is you’re talking to neurotypical women, anon..
>>34073820Crawl before you walk, walk before you run. Start by meeting women in mixed-gender settings, like classes or clubs. It's easier to chat when gender is simply irrelevant to the situation. That will de-mystify them somewhat and make them less scary one-on-one
look up rizzzcam on insta, he gives a good example of social skills. i am working on the defunkt energy in my regular life but he changed my life fore sure, i would say that there is a breadth of experience you can get to where you dont have to worry about if you look like a robot, its just another one of many experiential experiences that actually, can have that lack of social skills in it from you yourself truly. its normal stuff. anywhere, anyway, where you can get yourself enough experience to say that its just a small thing to have normal nervousness then thats A OK
